Mrs. Grace Soje, the wife of the Kogi
State civil servant, who committed suicide on October 16, 2017, says her
husband’s death remains a shock.
State civil servant, who committed suicide on October 16, 2017, says her
husband’s death remains a shock.
The widow told Sunday PUNCH that her husband, Edward Soje, showed no signs of depression the last time she saw him alive.
Mrs. Soje, who is a federal civil
servant, was still in a private hospital in Abuja when our correspondent
visited her on Saturday.
servant, was still in a private hospital in Abuja when our correspondent
visited her on Saturday.
Although her husband took his life on October 16, it was learnt that she was only informed of his death on October 31.
Still struggling to come to terms with
reality, the widow said, “I learnt of my husband’s death on Tuesday. I
was not even informed because my phone was taken away from me after I
gave birth. But on that particular day, I saw my phone lying around and
it was switched off.
reality, the widow said, “I learnt of my husband’s death on Tuesday. I
was not even informed because my phone was taken away from me after I
gave birth. But on that particular day, I saw my phone lying around and
it was switched off.
“So, I turned it on and saw my
brother-in-law’s text message in which he said he had gone to pick up
his dead brother’s corpse. It was at that point that I started screaming
that they have killed my husband.”
brother-in-law’s text message in which he said he had gone to pick up
his dead brother’s corpse. It was at that point that I started screaming
that they have killed my husband.”
Grace told our correspondent that she
saw her husband alive on October 14, during the naming ceremony
(christening) of their triplets– Elijah, Elisha and Enoch.
saw her husband alive on October 14, during the naming ceremony
(christening) of their triplets– Elijah, Elisha and Enoch.
She explained that she was the one who asked him to go home to rest and put things in order and then come back to the hospital.
Mrs. Soje stated, “We did the naming
ceremony at the hospital on October 14 and there was no quarrel
whatsoever. We only asked him to go home and rest because the hospital
was filled up and the nurses were driving people away.
ceremony at the hospital on October 14 and there was no quarrel
whatsoever. We only asked him to go home and rest because the hospital
was filled up and the nurses were driving people away.
“So, I told him to go home to rest and
return in the evening so that we could plan how to move our car and some
other things from Kogi. That was the last time I saw him.
return in the evening so that we could plan how to move our car and some
other things from Kogi. That was the last time I saw him.
“On Sunday, we waited for him to come
but we never saw him and his phone was switched off. So, my cousin, who
was staying with me, went to the house but didn’t tell me anything but
she told my elder sister what she saw in the house such as the cardboard
where he left a message.
but we never saw him and his phone was switched off. So, my cousin, who
was staying with me, went to the house but didn’t tell me anything but
she told my elder sister what she saw in the house such as the cardboard
where he left a message.
“He said God would preserve me and that I
should take care of the boys. It was on Monday that my elder sister
called me to ask if I saw what was in the house but nobody was
explaining anything to me.”
should take care of the boys. It was on Monday that my elder sister
called me to ask if I saw what was in the house but nobody was
explaining anything to me.”
Mrs. Soje said her husband never showed
any signs of depression, adding that on the day the triplets were born,
he was rolling on the hospital floor thanking God for finally giving
them children after over 17 years.
any signs of depression, adding that on the day the triplets were born,
he was rolling on the hospital floor thanking God for finally giving
them children after over 17 years.
She added, “One of the nurses told me
that when I was in the theatre and the babies were born, my husband was
rolling on the floor, praising God. He bought banana for the nurses.
Even my tenants in Lokoja said on Friday, my husband was very joyful and
told them that he was going to stay in Abuja for a long time to take
care of his children.
that when I was in the theatre and the babies were born, my husband was
rolling on the floor, praising God. He bought banana for the nurses.
Even my tenants in Lokoja said on Friday, my husband was very joyful and
told them that he was going to stay in Abuja for a long time to take
care of his children.
“We never quarrelled. In fact, my blood
pressure was high and he was the one who calmed me down and asked me to
rest and keep my phone aside.
pressure was high and he was the one who calmed me down and asked me to
rest and keep my phone aside.
“He never gave me any sign of anything;
nothing! On Tuesday, his nephew, who lives with us and happens to be a
civil defence official, called me, saying that my husband came to his
house and was saying some things that he didn’t understand.
nothing! On Tuesday, his nephew, who lives with us and happens to be a
civil defence official, called me, saying that my husband came to his
house and was saying some things that he didn’t understand.
“He said my husband was complaining that
he didn’t own any property and that all the properties belonged to me.
So, I asked him, when my husband was saying all these things, why didn’t
he take him to relatives’ house or lock him somewhere?”
he didn’t own any property and that all the properties belonged to me.
So, I asked him, when my husband was saying all these things, why didn’t
he take him to relatives’ house or lock him somewhere?”
When asked if it was true that Edward
committed suicide because he had not been paid by the Kogi State
Government for almost a year, Grace said she could not say.
committed suicide because he had not been paid by the Kogi State
Government for almost a year, Grace said she could not say.
She admitted that her husband had not been paid for several months but explained that they were both living off her salary.
The widow said, “I don’t know if it is
because of salary because I am not a Kogi State civil servant. After
all, he has not been collecting salary since January but we have been
managing my own salary. So, I don’t know.”
because of salary because I am not a Kogi State civil servant. After
all, he has not been collecting salary since January but we have been
managing my own salary. So, I don’t know.”
Making a concerned plea to the Federal
Government, the National Assembly, the Kogi State Government and
well-meaning Nigerians, Mrs. Soje explained that the hospital bill had
run into millions of naira and she needed assistance.
Government, the National Assembly, the Kogi State Government and
well-meaning Nigerians, Mrs. Soje explained that the hospital bill had
run into millions of naira and she needed assistance.
She said one of the triplets, Enoch, had been transferred to the National Hospital for a surgery and his own bill was separate.
Grace said, “Nigerians should assist me
so that I can take good care of the children. We have not been able to
settle the hospital bill. We have been given a bill of N1, 627,000 by
the hospital but one of the triplets had to be taken to the National
Hospital for a surgery and I don’t know how much his own bill is right
now.”
so that I can take good care of the children. We have not been able to
settle the hospital bill. We have been given a bill of N1, 627,000 by
the hospital but one of the triplets had to be taken to the National
Hospital for a surgery and I don’t know how much his own bill is right
now.”
When asked if she suspected foul play in her husband’s death, she said, “I leave everything to God.”