When Danladi Funtuwa, 38,
an auto mechanic from Nasarawa Eggon area of Nasarawa State, working in
‘mechanic village’ on Bukan Sidi in Lafia, and his wife, Salamatu Maka,
31, a seamstress from Wamba Local Government Area of the state, met in
2013 in Lafia, during an empowerment programme of Governor Tanko
Almakura, it was like love at first sight.
an auto mechanic from Nasarawa Eggon area of Nasarawa State, working in
‘mechanic village’ on Bukan Sidi in Lafia, and his wife, Salamatu Maka,
31, a seamstress from Wamba Local Government Area of the state, met in
2013 in Lafia, during an empowerment programme of Governor Tanko
Almakura, it was like love at first sight.
That love turned a remarkable corner when in March 2014,
they got married and began to live as husband and wife in Shabu, Lafia.
But some four years down the line, the love made in heaven has become
shattered on earth, no thanks to fertility challenges.
they got married and began to live as husband and wife in Shabu, Lafia.
But some four years down the line, the love made in heaven has become
shattered on earth, no thanks to fertility challenges.
What God has joined let no man put asunder, the Old Book
says. But it is most painful when the man used in putting asunder that
union is your bosom friend. This is the truth that hit home as our
correspondent sat through a session in which Salamatu told a stunning
tale of how she was impregnated by her husband’s best friend, Mr.
Francis Kulungu, 35, an indigene of Awe Local Government Area of the
state and a land and property agent in Lafia.
says. But it is most painful when the man used in putting asunder that
union is your bosom friend. This is the truth that hit home as our
correspondent sat through a session in which Salamatu told a stunning
tale of how she was impregnated by her husband’s best friend, Mr.
Francis Kulungu, 35, an indigene of Awe Local Government Area of the
state and a land and property agent in Lafia.
Bubble burst
The bubble burst when Mr. Funtuwa, in anguish, reported to
the Chief of Shabu, Alhaji Sulieman Abdullahi, the three-month
pregnancy his wife was carrying for his best friend. In an interview
with Saturday Sun, he talked about how he started suspecting his
friend’s affair with his wife when he started frequenting his house, on
the pretext of paying a friendly visit, even when he (Funtuwa) was not
around.
the Chief of Shabu, Alhaji Sulieman Abdullahi, the three-month
pregnancy his wife was carrying for his best friend. In an interview
with Saturday Sun, he talked about how he started suspecting his
friend’s affair with his wife when he started frequenting his house, on
the pretext of paying a friendly visit, even when he (Funtuwa) was not
around.
“Owing to the nature of my work as a mechanic, I close
very late, but each time I got home after that I would meet him sitting
outside and waiting for me or I would be told he had just left,” Funtuwa
told our correspondent. “Some of my neighbours who suspected something
fishy between them complained to me about the man’s closeness to my wife
and wondered aloud what the kind of friend he is, saying he was always
visiting and chatting with my wife in her shop.”
very late, but each time I got home after that I would meet him sitting
outside and waiting for me or I would be told he had just left,” Funtuwa
told our correspondent. “Some of my neighbours who suspected something
fishy between them complained to me about the man’s closeness to my wife
and wondered aloud what the kind of friend he is, saying he was always
visiting and chatting with my wife in her shop.”
Having been alerted, Funtuwa decided to keep a close but
surreptitious watch on the two. But over a four-month period, his trap
caught nothing tangible he could use to openly confront them over their
evil deed. Didn’t a proverb say that as you monitor the moves of an
animal trapped inside a hole so does it from there monitor your moves
too? So it was with the two lovebirds engaged in an illicit affair and
Funtuwa.
surreptitious watch on the two. But over a four-month period, his trap
caught nothing tangible he could use to openly confront them over their
evil deed. Didn’t a proverb say that as you monitor the moves of an
animal trapped inside a hole so does it from there monitor your moves
too? So it was with the two lovebirds engaged in an illicit affair and
Funtuwa.
Foolproof trap
When his efforts seemed to have drawn a blank, he hit on a
seemingly foolproof idea, which he felt he could use to nail them once
and for all. On May 14, 2017, he lied to his wife that he was going to
Kaduna to buy a Peugeot 406 engine for one of his customers’ car and
that the trip would keep him away for three days.
seemingly foolproof idea, which he felt he could use to nail them once
and for all. On May 14, 2017, he lied to his wife that he was going to
Kaduna to buy a Peugeot 406 engine for one of his customers’ car and
that the trip would keep him away for three days.
But rather than travel as he had made her believe, he
stayed in a neighbour’s house hoping to monitor his wife’s movements
from there. The following day, he returned to the house at about 12:30pm
in the middle of the night only to discover to his dismay that his wife
was nowhere to be found. Further move to know her whereabouts was
thwarted by his discovery that her phone was permanently switched off
for the two days duration.
stayed in a neighbour’s house hoping to monitor his wife’s movements
from there. The following day, he returned to the house at about 12:30pm
in the middle of the night only to discover to his dismay that his wife
was nowhere to be found. Further move to know her whereabouts was
thwarted by his discovery that her phone was permanently switched off
for the two days duration.
Unknown to him, his wife and his friend, Kulungu, had left
Lafia, the same day, for a visit to his (Kulungu’s) younger brother,
schooling at the College of Education, Akwanga, and spent two days
there. At the end, the wife returned only to meet an enraged husband
waiting for her at home.
Lafia, the same day, for a visit to his (Kulungu’s) younger brother,
schooling at the College of Education, Akwanga, and spent two days
there. At the end, the wife returned only to meet an enraged husband
waiting for her at home.
“That was the beginning of the problem,” Funtuwa icily
observed. “I demanded to know where she went. She was too tongue-tied to
talk. From that time till now, we’ve not had sex because she was
unwilling to tell me where she went. I reported the matter to her
parents and they supported me to insist on knowing where she went.”
observed. “I demanded to know where she went. She was too tongue-tied to
talk. From that time till now, we’ve not had sex because she was
unwilling to tell me where she went. I reported the matter to her
parents and they supported me to insist on knowing where she went.”
For a long time, she continued to remain taciturn. On
Sunday, July 30, 2017 matters took a turn for the worse as the enraged
husband changed tactics, drew a cutlass and threatened to kill her right
in their bedroom if she refused to open up. “At
11pm, when I could no longer hold my anger, I drew a cutlass I bought
last year to protect myself in case of an attack and asked her to say
her last prayers as I was going to kill her. She started pleading for
her life. But all her pleas fell on deaf ears as I told her firmly that I
would only spare her life if and only if she told me the truth and
nothing but the truth about her two days trip without my knowledge and
about her relationship with my friend (Kulungu).”
Sunday, July 30, 2017 matters took a turn for the worse as the enraged
husband changed tactics, drew a cutlass and threatened to kill her right
in their bedroom if she refused to open up. “At
11pm, when I could no longer hold my anger, I drew a cutlass I bought
last year to protect myself in case of an attack and asked her to say
her last prayers as I was going to kill her. She started pleading for
her life. But all her pleas fell on deaf ears as I told her firmly that I
would only spare her life if and only if she told me the truth and
nothing but the truth about her two days trip without my knowledge and
about her relationship with my friend (Kulungu).”
Midnight confession
Having been so cornered with no way of escape, Salamatu opened up and began to sing. She
told him all she knew about the affair that she said started with
Kulungu in April. She confessed that she was actually the one who
seduced him into the secret love affair and she did that to know whether
her inability to conceive for the past three years they’d been married
is hers or husband’s.
told him all she knew about the affair that she said started with
Kulungu in April. She confessed that she was actually the one who
seduced him into the secret love affair and she did that to know whether
her inability to conceive for the past three years they’d been married
is hers or husband’s.
On the mystery surrounding the two days trip away from her
matrimonial home, she revealed that Kulungu took her to his younger
brother’s apartment in Akwanga where they had fun for two days. Crying
profusely, she earnestly pleaded for forgiveness, adding that her desire
to have a child led her into trying another man to know where the
problem is and that’s why she couldn’t use condom. In fact, at the end
of the confession, she confirmed to him that she was actually three
months pregnant courtesy of Kulungu.
matrimonial home, she revealed that Kulungu took her to his younger
brother’s apartment in Akwanga where they had fun for two days. Crying
profusely, she earnestly pleaded for forgiveness, adding that her desire
to have a child led her into trying another man to know where the
problem is and that’s why she couldn’t use condom. In fact, at the end
of the confession, she confirmed to him that she was actually three
months pregnant courtesy of Kulungu.
No holds barred
In an exclusive interview with Saturday Sun, Salamatu
confirmed her husband’s story and hinged her reason for going into the
secret love affair with her husband’s friend on her impassioned desire
to have a baby after marriage. She regretted her husband’s inability to
bring that about more than three years after their wedding.
confirmed her husband’s story and hinged her reason for going into the
secret love affair with her husband’s friend on her impassioned desire
to have a baby after marriage. She regretted her husband’s inability to
bring that about more than three years after their wedding.
Her account: “A year after our marriage, we went to
Dalhatu Specialist Hospital, Lafia, to carry out some tests to know why I
have not conceived. The tests showed that my husband has low and watery
sperm count and as a result might not be able to impregnate a woman
except something was done about it.
Dalhatu Specialist Hospital, Lafia, to carry out some tests to know why I
have not conceived. The tests showed that my husband has low and watery
sperm count and as a result might not be able to impregnate a woman
except something was done about it.
“The hospital treated and certified him fit after six
months. Yet, there was no pregnancy. We went back to the hospital and
the result certified both of us fit and fertile, yet nothing happened.
In March 2017, our marriage was exactly three years old without a child.
All my mates in marriage have two children each. I was tired of
answering questions from colleagues and friends
months. Yet, there was no pregnancy. We went back to the hospital and
the result certified both of us fit and fertile, yet nothing happened.
In March 2017, our marriage was exactly three years old without a child.
All my mates in marriage have two children each. I was tired of
answering questions from colleagues and friends
“Kulungu, my husband’s friend, is a
regular caller at the house and we became friends. When I narrated this
problem to him, he showed much concern about it and suggested fertility
test for both of us. We did it last year, around May, at the specialist
hospital and the result showed that both of us are okay. Since we are
very close, I decided to ask him for help by soliciting for sex with
him, to ascertain where the problem is since they said my husband and I
are okay. At first, he entertained fears but I assured him that it was
going to be something confidential and nobody would know about it. After
much pressure, he accepted.
regular caller at the house and we became friends. When I narrated this
problem to him, he showed much concern about it and suggested fertility
test for both of us. We did it last year, around May, at the specialist
hospital and the result showed that both of us are okay. Since we are
very close, I decided to ask him for help by soliciting for sex with
him, to ascertain where the problem is since they said my husband and I
are okay. At first, he entertained fears but I assured him that it was
going to be something confidential and nobody would know about it. After
much pressure, he accepted.
“Our first meeting was on April 8, 2017
at Dunami Hotels, Lafia. I footed the hotel bill. We had a marathon
session that lasted the better part of the night. I didn’t use any
protection because I was ovulating. In the morning before we departed,
we had a quickie. It was a parting gift for me and he kissed me goodbye.
That month’s end, I missed my period. After that month, I conducted a
pregnancy test and it was confirmed positive. I broke the news to
Kulungu, he was delighted about it, though he wanted me to abort it. I
refused and vowed that I will keep the child.”
at Dunami Hotels, Lafia. I footed the hotel bill. We had a marathon
session that lasted the better part of the night. I didn’t use any
protection because I was ovulating. In the morning before we departed,
we had a quickie. It was a parting gift for me and he kissed me goodbye.
That month’s end, I missed my period. After that month, I conducted a
pregnancy test and it was confirmed positive. I broke the news to
Kulungu, he was delighted about it, though he wanted me to abort it. I
refused and vowed that I will keep the child.”
Fight back
That has put her husband, Funtuwa, in a
state of confusion as he vowed not to keep someone else’s blood in his
house. “I told her parents about this development and they simply asked
me to send her packing to go meet the said Kulungu, and that she should
never come to them for anything,” he said. “They sympathised with me. I
have already asked her to leave my house within 30 days, though the
chief has asked me to seek divorce through a court but that is a long
process. Moreover, I don’t have money to hire a lawyer.”
state of confusion as he vowed not to keep someone else’s blood in his
house. “I told her parents about this development and they simply asked
me to send her packing to go meet the said Kulungu, and that she should
never come to them for anything,” he said. “They sympathised with me. I
have already asked her to leave my house within 30 days, though the
chief has asked me to seek divorce through a court but that is a long
process. Moreover, I don’t have money to hire a lawyer.”
He is hopeful of remarring someday but
not any moment soon immediately as he does not keep girlfriends outside
marriage. He, however, promised to commence the search for another wife
after Salamatu might have left his house within the 30 days ultimatum.
not any moment soon immediately as he does not keep girlfriends outside
marriage. He, however, promised to commence the search for another wife
after Salamatu might have left his house within the 30 days ultimatum.
No shaking
The wife, hardly moved by all the hoopla,
said she is prepared for anything. She told our correspondent that her
husband has a serious problem with low sperm count and may likely run
into the same problem if he gets married without having the problem
permanently solved. “Staying with him will amount to a waste of time,”
she said. “I’m ready to leave his house within the specified time. I
have a handwork (tailoring) with which I can take care of the baby.”
said she is prepared for anything. She told our correspondent that her
husband has a serious problem with low sperm count and may likely run
into the same problem if he gets married without having the problem
permanently solved. “Staying with him will amount to a waste of time,”
she said. “I’m ready to leave his house within the specified time. I
have a handwork (tailoring) with which I can take care of the baby.”
On the run
And where is Kulungu the father of the
baby, in all of this, you finally found the voice to ask Salamatu. “He
is not ready for the child, he has run away,” she sighed. “The last time
I spoke with him, he told me he was in Lagos looking for a job and that
he will not return to Lafia any time soon. But for me, I will keep the
child and train him/her to any level. I have moved on with my life. If
the child is a baby boy, I may not remarry but if it is a baby girl, I
will definitely remarry someday.”
baby, in all of this, you finally found the voice to ask Salamatu. “He
is not ready for the child, he has run away,” she sighed. “The last time
I spoke with him, he told me he was in Lagos looking for a job and that
he will not return to Lafia any time soon. But for me, I will keep the
child and train him/her to any level. I have moved on with my life. If
the child is a baby boy, I may not remarry but if it is a baby girl, I
will definitely remarry someday.”