Writing for Mamamia,
the devastated bride – who is getting married in May next year –
explained how she had been betrayed by one of her four bridesmaids over
her wedding dress.She wrote
“So last weekend after much stress and anticipation, I finally found my dream dress while at a bridal boutique,”.The
woman put down a 50% deposit so they could order the dress in for her,
giving her enough time to have fittings and make sure it was perfect.
And, of course, it was supposed to remain a secret until the big day to everyone but her bridesmaids.
“I was ecstatic and thrilled that I’d finally found my gown,””I took my
bridal party out for lunch afterwards to celebrate and we had a really
lovely afternoon together. But then when I got home I got a phone call
from my bridesmaid Sandra that left me shaking and in tears.
“Sandra informed me that another bridesmaid, Tanya, who is a close
friend of mine from school, had shared a picture of me in the wedding
dress I purchased on her Instagram account. I have social media, but I
don’t use it or check it often.”
Sandra, a friend who I work with, knew that I wouldn’t see it and felt
that she owed it to me to tell me so I could address it if I wished.
Upon receiving the news I immediately called Tanya.
be clear, I wasn’t even aware the picture had been taken. I was hopping
in and out of dresses so frequently during the fittings that I wasn’t
really paying attention to what was going on around me. I assumed Tanya
was simply on her phone, I didn’t know she was snapping pictures.
I wouldn’t have had an issue with her taking pictures as long as they
remained private. But now a picture of me in my wedding dress is on the
internet more than eight months before my wedding day. It makes me feel
sick and as though the magic had been taken away and ruined.
Tanya answered my call I asked her why she had decided to share the
picture. When I confronted her, she was immediately defensive. She
argued with me and said she couldn’t understand why I was upset when she
didn’t have any of my friends or family on her Instagram account. She
insisted no one would have seen it and that I was making a big deal out
I asked her politely to please delete the picture and explained that I
wasn’t comfortable with it being on the internet. Her account isn’t
private so it could easily be accessed by anyone. It didn’t sit well
with me and I wanted it gone.
It was at that point Tanya demanded to know who told her about the image
and insisted that she didn’t need to take it down. It’s now been a few
days since I spoke to Tanya and Sandra tells me she has been blocked and
deleted by Tanya on all her social media.
I’m now considering if I need to buy a new dress but I’ve already paid a
$3000 deposit and really can’t afford to. But I feel like there’s no
surprise or excitement around my dress anymore. Every time I think about
it I want to cry and can’t imagine walking down the aisle in this dress
The situation between myself and Tanya as well as the vibe in the bridal
party is feeling really strange. I’ve considered asking Tanya to no
longer be in my bridal party, but I feel like that may only cause more
Should I tell her how I feel or just suck it up and keep quiet?