Nollywood actress, Uche Ogbodo has revealed that she faced domestic violence in her last relationship as she opened up on the kind of man she wants.
Speaking with The Sun, Uche, talked about her love life, career, gender equality and more.
think gender equality is good. As human beings, I really don’t think
there should be a difference, and that a particular gender should feel
superior to the other. There is no difference between you and the other
person; the only difference is sex. So, everyone should be treated
equally, because women also work as hard as men. I don’t understand why
women are not equal to men. Right now, I am doing bigger and harder
stuff than the man next to me.
As a woman, I want to be
successful, so I put in extra effort in what I do. I don’t understand
why someone will try to embarrass or harass me because of my sex,
telling me that I am a woman and I shouldn’t do this or that. I am a
woman and I believe in gender equality.
Are you giving love another chance?
No. I don’t even know what love is. I don’t even know if love is real. I can feel it but I don’t know if it is real.
Are you saying you are done with love?
better now. Believe me, I’m at a better place than I was some years
ago. I was numb for a long time but I am healing gradually. I am not
fully healed, but I’m healing because the experience was bad. I’m not
somebody that talks too much about my downfalls and failures. But right
now, I’m scared; I’m very scared.
Was there an abuse in the relationship?
know, I wasn’t married. I was just engaged but the media attacked me as
a married woman. But in the relationship I had there was no abuse.
Well, there would have been abuse because there are different kinds of
abuse like I do say, but it doesn’t have to be physical. If I am allowed
to say that lying and deceit are a form of abuse then I will tag it
psychological abuse. He was messing with my head; all the depression
that came with it makes it an abuse. So yes, I think he was probably
abusive because I wasn’t concentrating, I didn’t know what I was doing.
What was the breaking point?
breaking point would be when I found out that he was never going to be
different from who he was. He was not ready to make amends. Of course, I
knew about his flaws despite the fact that he was lying to cover up
some things. But I was ready to patch things up with him if he was ready
to change. You see, I have worked so hard and I didn’t want to go down.
I knew this because I was strong. I could push but he wasn’t ready.
Do you think marriage completes a woman?
No, I don’t think marriage completes a woman.
Is marriage an achievement?
Marriage is just companionship. It is when you feel lonely and you have somebody around who understands you.
Many Nigerian women see marriage as a trophy they should carry around. What is your take on this?
don’t see it as a trophy. I think it is more about bonding,
understanding and sharing moments with someone you love. Probably, I can
say having and raising good kids can be more of a woman’s trophy. I
think by having children you are bringing something to the world, that’s
more like it.
Where do you see yourself in 10 years from now?
(Ogbodo) would be bigger than she is right now, because I am working
hard on it. By the grace of God, I will be an achiever. I have political
ambitions and I am going to get there. Although, I don’t have any
specific thing I want to do right now and I don’t know how I am going to
get there, I know that I would be there someday. Probably, I will get
more children and I would be married too.
What are you looking for in a man?
man that loves me should support what I am doing. I am not
materialistic, I just need a strong base and I need someone who can push
me to achieve my dreams. Let’s push each other, and don’t just throw me
out there and you are moving, because I want to move too. You are a
man, I want to be successful and you want to be successful too, so let
us be successful together. I need a partner, not an authority.