media, it seems celebrities have thrown caution to the wind as they are
quick to feed the public with details of their marital problems via
their social media accounts.
entertainers who have chosen the social media space as their battle
grounds. They are the bases on which experts have lent their voices on
the impact their actions have on their children.
surprised when the wife of a popular comedian, AY, posted a picture on
her Instagram page, warning a pregnant lady, Freda Francis, who had once
been romantically linked with singer, Iyanya, to leave her family
alone. This came some hours after pictures surfaced online that the
humour merchant attended Francis’ baby shower party on Sunday just like
some other celebrities did.
one also released some private chats believed to be between the
comedian and the pregnant lady. From the moment her post hit the
blogosphere, the stand-up comedian became the number one topic on
various blogs across the country as people began to raise an eyebrow,
insinuating that he probably was the father of Francis’ unborn child.
seemed nonchalant about the whole situation and when he was contacted by
an online news portal, he simply said, “And so if I impregnated Freda,
is it something new? Because most of these celebs cover up? That na why
you think say people never hear dis kain thing before. So what if na me
give am belle? Abeg abeg! Na today?”
comedian’s wife, Mabel, came barely after the dust had settled on the
marital crisis between star actress, Mercy Aigbe and her estranged
husband, Lanre Gentry, whereby the battle field was also the digital
her husband went back and forth via their social media pages to attack
and counter attack each other over matters that border from infidelity
to domestic violence. While their case is still pending in court, the
posts of the embittered couple who are responsible for the life of two
children are still online and may remain there forever simply because
the internet never forgets.
brought to the public domain, it is only right for the public to comment
on the issues with their children also dragged into the matter.
Aigbe’s eldest child spoke on how she faces cyber bullying for being
exposed to her parents’ marital problems. She said, “You know, if you’re
not strong it can reduce your self-esteem; that’s why I hardly read my
comments. Sometimes comments make me feel like crying. Like yesterday
someone said something bad about my mum and they are now bringing it to
my page. I’m young, I’m not supposed to go through that.”
based on the actress claims of domestic violence by her husband and some
bloodied pictures which surfaced online, another Nollywood celebrity
who chose to use social media as a tool to promote their marital
problems instead of promoting their career was Prince Eke and his singer
turned actress estranged wife, Muma Gee.
decided to use their social media handles to throw jabs at each other
with the actor announcing to the world that his wife was unfaithful to
him and was fond of visiting night clubs. He posted on his Instagram
page, “This is not a cheap publicity, I am not washing my dirty linen in
the public, neither do I want to invoke pity. How nice is it for a
woman to abandon her three months old baby for four weeks and ran off to
Abuja with God knows who and is being seen in Abuja at public joints
and night clubs with different men.”
observers would not forget in a hurry the post by Tee-billz, who is
married to pop sensation, Tiwa Savage.
of the limelight to his singer wife, the young man claimed that his wife
was unfaithful and she had slept with several big shots in the Nigerian
music scene. One of the jaw dropping posts read, “Within what period of
time did you fuck Jazzy and Dr Sid. And I didn’t care because of the
love I have for you. I looked at it that we all have a past even when at
this same fucking time you were fucking with 2face.”
deleted from his Instagram account and normalcy seems to have been
restored to the family, it is very easy to access all his posts and
rants from that period.
aforementioned artistes as the list goes on. However, while commenting
on this trend, some psychologists told Saturday Beats that
although most of these posts may not be up to a thousand words, their
impact is probably everlasting and most times takes a harmful toll on
the children of these celebrities.
University of Lagos, who is a specialist in developmental and clinical
psychology, gave her two cents on the matter.
they are washing in the public. Sadly, their parents are not mindful of
their actions and they don’t think of their children before doing things
marital crisis on the social media but are separated, they are still
sometimes stigmatised in some circles let alone parents that have told
the whole world about their problems.
not aware that such an action would definitely have a negative impact on
their children. Such an act can lead to depression but it may not be
clinical depression. It would be a normal depression especially when
they are being ridiculed by peers.
unhappy but after some time, they would get out of it. It would make
them feel sad and it could also generate anxious insecurity in the
impact on the children and may affect their self-esteem, self-worth and
self-confidence. However, it also depends on how long such an act goes
on for it to have that kind of impact.”
developmental, cognitive, counselling and environmental psychologist,
the children of these stars could be exposed to shame.
themselves with who their parents are and it can be quite depressing for
someone especially if you have been boasting about your parents, then
you find information about them online that is negative, it can be
could get depressed. It could be the subject of ridicule by their peers
and it can be depressing for any child.
affecting how they value themselves. Sometimes we pride ourselves from
our background and who our parents are.
themselves, it could affect the children’s view of the world because
trust has been betrayed in the home. It would be difficult for the
children to trust.
difficult to concentrate in school because they are focused on what is
happening at home or what is being said about them and their family on
the social media space. It affects them educationally. The sense of
shame could also come in play too because some of the words these
parents use on themselves on social media are shameful words and other
people may use that against the child.”
rising trend, the Head of Psychology Department, University of Lagos,
Professor Ibinabo Agiobu-Kemmer, a child psychologist, said, “We are
living in the digital information age where the children themselves know
what is going on on the internet than what is happening with their
family. That is not where it started from because values have been
eroded. We don’t need to be an expert to know that it would upset the
children emotionally because they idolise their parents especially if
the children are adolescents.
why you would notice that they brag about them and they also look up to
their parents as role models. Talking about the problems, we also have
to find a solution.
and those parents because it is very likely that they do not know the
impact of their action on those children because the world is now a
self-centred that they don’t think beyond themselves but they should
please give their children a chance because it is affecting these
children. It is not just about giving them money or sending them abroad.
The children are always on social media, it is their lives and some of
them do not even know their cousins.”