“Even at my age, I still go to Umkhosi woMhlanga (a ceremony for
virgins),” said Thembisile at a social cohesion dialogue about
“I began this journey when I was 14 years old. I get a lot of people
criticising me for being a virgin and not having children. Some even
tell me I will die a lonely woman. But that does not make me want to
change my life.”
Thembisile said she has never slept with a man or even kissed one. She
said she is one of the most respected women in Botha’s Hill.
“I’m the lastborn at home. My eight siblings got married and left me with my brother’s two children.”
She said when she was young she heard her brothers’ friends saying bad things about the girls they’d had s*x with.
“I decided then I didn’t want to be one of those girls,” she said.
Thembisile encouraged young ladies to stay virgins till marriage.