Happily married and pretty Susan Peters is not your regular Nollywood actress.
The fashionable actress who came into limelight by playing the role
of Eniola Lord-Williams in the soap, Domino, bares her mind on
relationship and love.
Advising that cheating on a mate doesn’t mean the relationship lacks
love, she proffers a solution to lasting relationships on her Instagram
page:
“I have discovered that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a
relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round,
and on the other hand, cheating isn’t always a product of not loving
your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in
love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It
works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and
self discipline because, time will come when you’ll see more beautiful,
handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing
people than the one you’re in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you,
emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep
you going.
With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else,
the person you’re committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don’t see better people than the
ones they married? You think they don’t feel funny sometimes? You think
they don’t catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes
absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than
love.
We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet. We are too
fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the
first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you’ll realise that
the feelings have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work,
not love’s responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it’s
never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the
long run in marriages, it’s not just love that keeps them together
forever, it’s determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But
staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed
ones do that.
That’s why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself bridle your emotions.
#MayGodhelpusall.”(sic)