carpets with his wife Emelia Philips-Nouah because she is not beautiful.
- Ramsey, your marriage appears to have stood the test of time. You
have been married for 15 years now. Some of your colleagues have been
unlucky in this regard.
RAMSEY: Contrary to a widely held notion, the success of a marriage
largely rests on the woman. But these days, a lot of marriages are based
on equality. A woman wants to get 50 per cent of whatever she is giving
into the marriage back from the man. This has led to the breakdown of
From time our mothers used to be the women that held their marriages.
They were in charge of the home. Our mothers took charge of everything
but today women don’t want that kind of responsibility. Hence, it is
My wife belongs to the category of “our mothers”. She believes in sustaining our marriage and holding it strong.
So whenever I am asked how we have been able to keep it together, I tell
them my wife is the woman who has actually held our home.
- PT: Do you also accord her rightful place in the home?
RAMSEY: She doesn’t have a place because she owns the home. It’s her
call however (way) she wants things done. She is the driver of the
family and her decision is final. That is why I say she is not an
ordinary woman. She is a triple woman.
- PT: Is she comfortable with your romantic and kissing scenes?
Ramsey: When some people ask me “how does your wife cope when she sees
you kissing other women in the movie?” and I tell them that my wife is
She is not an ordinary woman. She understands things in a way many other
women don’t. That is why I say, an actor or actress, has to find that
special person. It is not love that will bond you. Forget love, love
dies. What sustains the marriage is companionship. If you cannot find
companionship in your partner from the beginning, then you do not have a
Don’t lust after a woman because of her beauty and don’t lust after a
guy because he is handsome. You must lust after the companionship that
bonds you together. It should be like “for some reasons you cannot do
without her; for some reasons there is something about her that brings
It may be her sense of humour; or the way she keeps the home. Same thing
applies for the ladies; there must be something about him that you
cannot do without. If this quality is not there, then you don’t have a
- PT: So, you guys have had it smooth sailing in your marriage all the while?
Ramsey: Don’t get me wrong, don’t think that we don’t have our moments
of disagreement. But it depends on the way we handle it. Women cannot
stand the heat in the kitchen anymore and they just want to run. That
is why marriages are crumbling. A lot people don’t want to work hard
anymore, because marriage is hard work. So when you talk about marriages
crashing, it’s not my call. The only problem that I have is to make
sure I provide food for the family.
- PT: Any counsel for your colleagues who have been unlucky with love and marriage?
Ramsey: Nobody gives advice when it comes to matters of the heart.
People say they are going for counseling and all but at the end, it is
what is in their heart is still what they want to do. Because those
things in your heart are laced with emotions and emotions are very hard
When you have emotion that is full of jealousy, hate or anger, it is
hard to break it until you exercise it. That is why when your dad
screams ‘do not follow that boy’ the teenager does not listen until she
has satisfied what her heart desires from the boy. Most times, you learn
Companionship is not easy. When everybody is running into marriages as
if marriage wants to go out of fashion, take your time and be ready for
it. Be ready to accept someone with his flaws. My wife has her problems
and I also have mine. A lot of it actually and I know. You must be able
to accommodate the other person.
- PT: Divorce is on the rise. Why do you think this is so?
Ramsey: When a woman believes she earns more than the man, the man
should start doing the work of a woman like sweeping, changing diapers.
There is no sense in that. A woman’s place should not change and the
same applies to the man. I am not expecting a woman to overwork herself
with house chores. I help and support my wife when there is no help in
the house. I sweep when I have the time.
- PT: In what ways do you also help out in the home?
Ramsey: I cooked two days before having this interview. I am a great
cook. No woman can do shakara for me oo. I made my stew and rice with
smoked chicken. I grew up with my mum and with her, you must know how to
sweep and do many other chores.
- PT: Some of your fans cannot picture you doing house chores?
RAMSEY: The thing is that everyone now has the perspective of wanting to
live larger than life, forgetting the reality. We keep forgetting that
if we don’t do it, who will do it? At some point my wife got tired of
house helps. We have three kids at home and we have to fend for them. I
cannot leave everything for her, so I help out. Sometimes we tell the
kids to wash their plates. At some point I realized that my 12 and 13
years old could not sweep and that was very wrong. So we started forcing
them to clean. Most kids of these days cannot sweep or clean. All they
want to do is do is make their nails, make their hair and carry big
phones and tablets around.
- PT: Are you romantic?
RAMSEY: Don’t judge me by my movie roles. I don’t think I am romantic. My wife does not think I am that romantic either.
- PT: Many people wonder why you do not step out with your wife on the red carpet?
RAMSEY: My wife and I have an understanding. And this is one of the
reasons our marriage is still standing strong. We avoid the public eye
because the public has a way of messing up relationships. Sometimes, my
wife goes ahead of me into the event, so we don’t do red carpet. It is
the same people that harass you for not taking your wife to red carpet
event that will sit back and point fingers at how you both look.
- PT: Some say you don’t take your wife to red carpet event because she is not beautiful?
RAMSEY: That is what they think. My wife is very cute. May be because my
wife is not loud or flashy when it comes to make-up or wearing long
weaves. She is very natural and she knows that I love her natural looks.
Source – PremiumTimes