Asiwaju Bola Tinubu’s government. Married to Justice Jumoke, a High Court
judge, the couple opens up on their marriage.
of your union?
importantly, the secret lies with the type of personality and character my wife
possesses. She is extremely patient, very resilient and bestowed with
tremendous wisdom, even at a young age. She was only 25 years old when we got
married but she had the wisdom and maturity of a 40 year-old. Because of her,
it was easier to navigate through the challenging early years of marriage. We
got married on February 5, 1983. That’s almost 34 years ago.
was opposite our family house. I had just completed my A-level at the time and
waiting for admission into the university. She was preparing for her A-level. I
was 19 and she was 16. That was in 1974; 42 years ago.
the first time when I visited a friend of mine. I saw this tall, dark and
handsome guy in a bright red shirt and I fell instantly in love with him. I was
enthralled when he approached me and introduced himself. I had butterflies in
and intelligence. She is dark, beautiful, tall, elegant and sexy but shy. I
fell for her almost immediately.
gentlemanliness and character.
but promising career. I was 28 years old just starting a career in banking,
while she was a 25-year-old fresh lawyer. Both of us were very ambitious but
she was able to manage her career such that our marriage was strengthened. We
had our first child that same year.
‘yes, yes, yes.’ I was so excited.
your life with him?
was the man of my dreams, but I did not tell him then. I just knew in my heart
that this he was the man I would rather spend the rest of my life with.
when you first met?
guy I married. However, in other ways, he has changed. In a society
where some women only go after men of means and power, it is not unexpected that
women will try to flock around him but he has handled this very well and I am
proud of him. One thing is that he cares about his family and tries to
shield us from external forces. God has been good to us. I am truly blessed to
have him as my husband.
time you met them?
mum. Both accepted me with open arms and never discouraged us from getting
way was the most memorable, joyous and wonderful.
patient and understanding. She takes good care of me and handles all my
private affairs. She is very tolerant and respectful. We love each other and
protect one another. I consider myself blessed.
each other unconditionally and communicating very well with each other are our
strengths. My wife is my best friend and confidant. We share the same
faith and try to be close to our God. We pray together as a couple. We try to
manage our conflicts without allowing third party interference. No matter how
busy we are, we make it a priority to spend time with each other. God has
brought us through life changing experiences. Our trials and triumphs have
drawn us closer to each other.
understanding, affectionate and devoted husband who is also a wonderful father
to our four children. He loves his family unconditionally and creates time for
and watching movies.
married to a personality like Femi Pedro?
married to such a man and I am grateful to God for giving us that opportunity.
I was once a magistrate, a Chief Registrar of a High Court before being
appointed as a High Court Judge. I saw his elevation as a call to serve the
people. By the grace of God, I have handled the attention that comes with it
very well by being level-headed and supportive.
things that attracted him to me in the first instance. We have our dates when
we go out for dinner. We also go to the cinema. Being intimate, caring and
affectionate to each other also keeps our marriage alive. We try to renew
our marriage vows from time to time and remain committed to each other.
is wrong I apologise. I learnt this long time ago that the best way to foster a
lasting peace in a marriage is to avoid unhealthy arguments, anger and malice.
Just say ‘sorry darling’ and move on even if you think your spouse has wronged
arise. The most important thing is being able to resolve the
conflict. Whenever there is disagreement, we do not allow it to linger
but we find a way to discuss our differences as mature adults and arrive at a
compromise. Sometimes, we settle immediately and other times, it takes
longer but the key thing is the ability to communicate with each other and
resolve the issue.
necessary. We hardly have disagreements on financial matters, maybe
because both of us have been working for a long time. My wife takes good care
of herself and does not bother me.
married. We jointly pooled our resources together to rent our first apartment,
finance part of our wedding expenses and furnish our apartment. I took a car
loan from my employer to buy our first car which we used jointly even before we
love to cook, decorate the home and keep a clean, neat environment. When my
kids were young, I always ensured they were well taken care of and that they
did their school works. They are all grown-up men now and have turned out to be
well-behaved. I am very proud of them. My husband loves to cook but as a matter
of principle, I do not allow him to cook. One time, when I was ill, my
husband made breakfast for me which I loved. But generally, he handles only
technical, financial matters and helps keep things working well in the house.
He provides for the family and ensures that there is peace at home.
never allowed me to cook.
dishes for my family despite my tight work schedule. I do not allow our cook
handle his meals whenever I am around.
Olasubomi Balogun and Olori Abimbola Balogun. They are a model couple. They
have been married for over 40 years and are always together publicly, elegantly
dressed in matching attire.
also admire my Pastor, Wale Adefarasin and his wife, Pastor Laolu Adefarasin.
They are also a model couple, always together in and out of church.
believe having God as the centrepiece of our lives is the most important
ingredient for a successful marriage. It is only from him that one gets
the wisdom and grace to handle challenges in marriage.