letting anger get the best of one in relationships.
This story I am about to share, you would have heard, told several
times, in different ways. But mine is not a story. A friend of ours, a
lawyer, in Abuja, was at a 5 day retreat and decided to dash back home
to get something that couldn’t wait. And meets his madam in an
uncompromising position. And just as he and the lover
boy got into a fight, lover boy broke free, ran for the door to the
balcony, opened it and jumped for his dear life, when he heard madam say
don’t shoot him, shoot me instead. And he jumped to his conclusion. He
hit his skull against something and died instantly. The case took like a
year and our guy was jailed. The wife was held responsible for the
whole tragedy. She tried to make people see how sorry she was, and even
tried to say there was no more love between them… but the deed was
done. No one cared. Now pause for a minute.
Agreed the man had a right to get angry. Agreed the lover boy was wrong
to go to a matrimonial home. Agreed he should not have gone for his gun.
What if he had recorded it and told her to move out? Would he be an ex
convict today? Guess what? The woman is living her life now and the only
thing is she is adulterous. Not an ex convict. She can still run for
elections. Remarry. And hey! She DID remarry. She tried to see him in
prison but after she realized the futility, because the family banned
her from even coming near her son, she gave up, relocated and started a
new life abroad. The lesson in this is, #MaaSheyBooSheTo!
Don’t let your emotions make you use all your power and connections to
deal with an issue that will be an overkill. Control your anger. Avoid
people who work you up. Think twice. If you can not stand the heat, stay
out of the kitchen. If you can not do the time don’t do the crime…
let us learn to control our emotions and anger.
You don’t want to know what the consequences of road rage have amounted
to in surveys. No ones life is worth your life sentence. Think fast.
Think twice. Think well.