for 11 years, Nollywood actor, Funsho Adeolu-Adegeye and his wife, Victoria talk
about their marriage.
met her at Zeb Ejiro’s office. Then she worked behind the camera. We started as
friends and here we are today. We have been married for 11 years.
was very simple and original. No make- up, no special hairdo and she wore very
decent clothes. She just looked very African and that was the attraction for
I am an On-Air-Personality and I am not entirely new to the entertainment
She gave me a slightly tough time because she kept dodging me but
hard as she tried to evade me, God always brought us together one way or the
other. I can’t explain it but we always met and each time she wanted to run
away from me, I was always there to ambush her.
Some people might consider that as a long time but it was a great period in our
lives. It was during this time that we discovered that we had so many things in
common. For instance, she sings and I do same too. We both love to dance and
during our courtship, we were always together. If you saw me and you didn’t see
her, it only meant she was on her way .She had a good knowledge of my job
because she worked with Tunji Bamishigbin.
wasn’t what you would call a formal proposal
because we already knew where we were headed. He had always called me his wife,
therefore, marriage was more or less a settled issue between us.
made you accept him as your husband?
can’t tell. My husband is a very nice person. He is also humble and gentle. There
was no way I could have minded getting married to someone in the limelight. At
the time we met, he was not as popular as he is now. Besides, I was in the
industry and I knew a lot. Even then I
knew he was an actor but I was not too conversant with his roles in movies.
When we go out and people say hello to him, it still amazes me. Maybe that is
because I don’t see him as a star, I see him as my husband and father of my
There are but I think I have been able to overcome them. I don’t allow such
things bother me. Even his female fans don’t bother me because he has managed
that part of his life very well.
him as my husband, I won’t be close to him but because he sees me as his
daughter and I see him as a father, I am able to relate better with him. He
talks to me like a daughter, the same way he talks to our children but he
treats me like an adult.
is like a training ground and you learn every day. It is a school where you are
taught so many things like perseverance and the ability to understand people,
most especially your wife. It has the ability to change your outlook and
behavioural pattern. One has to be very careful and know that you hold on to your
marriage no matter the situation. You should know that whatever happens is just
temporary; the resolution comes with compromise and understanding. Couples
should endeavour to communicate because it is very important. If you feel bad
about something, discuss it with your spouse and let it go.
am able to do that successfully because I believe if I am to live as the
Christian that I say I am, people should see me and see that I have several
qualities they can emulate. Whatever happens in the industry, I see it as
things of the world. I like to be original; I don’t like to portray what I am
not. I like what I do and when I am acting, I want to be at my best and that is
where it ends.
consult your wife?
all the time. Sometimes, I only get to tell her after I have played the role
but I am very modest when I am playing such roles. I don’t go to the extreme
because I know I am married and have to
keep my home .Even if my wife is understanding, I play the role as if she is
not understanding but that does not take away the fact that I put in my best.
state. Did your families oppose your marriage?
This is because my parents are widely travelled. Her family saw me as part of
them right from the first day. I had some people who wondered why I wanted to
marry a non-Yoruba and I had to ask them who was getting married. The fact that
she speaks Yoruba fluently is a plus and I also understand her dialect a bit.
spend a lot of time talking and playing. We can be indoors for days and we won’t
run out of things to talk about. That boils down to the friendship that exists
between the both of us. Sometimes, we even quarrel and before you know it, we
have started talking again like long time pals do.
still go clubbing. I know many people
will be surprised to read this.
yes. He is not doing badly in that area but I am also not one you can describe as a romantic at heart. We
are both trying our best.
my husband does not want to discuss the issue at hand when he is upset but I
always insist we talk things over. On the long run, things just ease out and
everyone is fine again.
love my husband the way he is and will not like to change anything about him. Over
the years, I have come to accept him for who he is. Trying to change anything
means I have to start adjusting again.
wife is stubborn but interestingly, I like that part of her because that gingers
me alot. I procrastinate and when I have ideas or projects I want to carry out;
she is on my neck until I deliver. My wife has changed my life and I love her
physical looks. There is nothing I want to change and I don’t want to add anything.