A KFBer sent this in moments ago, she needs your advice.
Kemi , it is me……………………………………………..please keep my identity private Biko………………………… i need help, i don’t know what is wrong with me. I am getting married before the end of this year to a guy i think i am in love with.
I used “think i am in love with’ because of recent times i feel drawn to another guy that i newly just met. My fiancee and I have been lovers for four years now and he is about 9 years older than I am.
He is comfortable, has a a cool apartment on the Lagos Island and treats me well, in short everything has been going on well until when this new guy showed up a few months ago. This new guy is just a year older than I am and we are only friends but i want more than friendship with him.
I enjoy gisting with him and chatting with him and hanging around him, my likeness for him is beyond likeness, i call it love, i am in love with him and now i am having doubts about my man whom i am supposed to wed in less than a month (early December for our trad and white wedding) but our court wedding is this Thursday and we have undergone all our counseling classes and i was happy with him until this new guy showed.
Funny enough this new guy is not even as fine or matured as my man but i don’t know why i enjoy being around him.
I can’t break up with my fiance because this new guy hasn’t even asked me out yet or talked about love to me but we are so close and he treats my issues with utmost priority and to make matters worse, I now talk longer to him on phone than to my own man…in short some people often tease us of our closeness sef.
I woke up this morning feeling confused, i feel like i am not been fair to my fiance and at the same time i want more than just friendship from this new guy, so i decided to send you this mail. What should I do? Please no one should cuss me out, i am just a young confused 24 year old girl.
P.S I am still a virgin.