father in all expectations of the word; being a father to one’s children
not only by words but also by deeds.
action speaks louder than words. Most of the things I have done over the
years were things I learnt as a child. Things that I watched my father
do; not as much as the things he said but the things I saw him do. I
discovered too that parents must be careful in training their children
not only by what they tell them to do but the actions they take in the
presence of their children. This made me to realise that fatherhood is
not an easy thing because one cannot be on one’s guard always. One
cannot change who one is in one’s home. If one is a general in the army,
one cannot be a general to one’s children at home. One must be a father
is spending enough and quality time with my children. Owing to the
nature of my work, I travel a lot within and outside the country. I go
out to work and also socialise with other people. Some of these times, I
wished I were with my family. I have discovered that I cannot be with
them most of time I wished to be with them because of the exigencies of
the time until the doctor told me to go home to get some of the things
the baby would need. It was about 30 minutes after I left the hospital
that she put to bed. I was in the hospital with her during the birth of
my two other children who are girls. But I did not witness the birth of
our first child who is a boy as I had to go home to prepare things for
the baby as instructed.
as a father. Many fathers do not have enough time for their children
due to what I call an irony of life. They spend their lives working hard
to make money to cater for their children. Their jobs thus take them
away from their children and families. So, whatever time one has, one
should spend it well with them.
always take things in my stride. Whatever comes, I believe that I have
enough grace from God to take care of it. Fear is part of the human
nature but one learns to overcome it by trusting God. He gives one the
grace to overcome it.
They are free with me. We discuss and talk as friends. I always tell
them to tell me anything and not be afraid. This has made them feel
relaxed to tell me anything. Anytime I am not around and they need
anything, they do not hesitate to call me.
with my children at home, but they know that it does not give them the
freedom to do whatever they like. We are good friends. But they are also
careful not to cross the line. I have never raised a hand to any of
need to use the rod on any of my children. I count myself very blessed
because I have children who respect and love me. They listen to me
whenever I talk to them. Even my son, Lionel, when he was studying
abroad would call to tell me if he got an invitation to any event. I
would only tell him to attend it but to be careful.
Would it be right to say his interest in the entertainment industry was
influenced by you since it is also your industry?
a lion. When he completed secondary education, I asked him what he
wanted to do and he said ‘media.’ Eventually, he studied Media with
Television at the University of Bradford, United Kingdom. He should be
going for a master’s degree programme soon.
that my life, work and lifestyle have influenced many people. I believe
that is the essence of living. God created us to impact positively on
others; to empower others and make them realise their dreams. Anybody
who lived in a way that his or her life did not impact positively on
others either knowingly or unknowingly lived a wasted life.
year in the university at the time. I got my diction and orientation
from my father. He was more handsome than I am. He worked with John Holt
as a clerk. He was careful about his speech. Most times, he would
pronounce some big words and ask us to search for their meanings in the
dictionary. My father was also fashionable in the way he dressed. He
would dress and ask us to appraise his dressing. If we dressed in a way
he did not like, he would look at the person and say, ‘You dressed like a
bush man.’ My father was also a staunch Christian. I have recollections
of how he would wake up at night and say warfare prayers. He was also
fair-minded and a strict disciplinarian. He also spoke to us using
popular sayings such as ‘punctuality is the soul of business.’ All these
I imbibed from my father.
fact, my son slept on my chest the day they returned from the hospital.
For me, a man should be willing to do housework because it is his
about showing love for one’s wife or one’s family. I just believe that
since it is my house, it is something I should do. Also, when the
children see such a thing, they will endeavour to emulate it. It will
become a habit. Sometimes, whenever my children are reading, I will pack
my plates myself to the kitchen after eating rather than disturb their
reading. We have no house maids. My children sweep, cook and do other
house chores. There are no cut-out roles for my wife or anybody in my
house. There is no rule that says my wife must cook or do other things. I
wash the toilet sometimes since everything one needs to clean the
toilet is there.
an examination for example, I will give the person a certain amount. It
is a way of encouraging them to remain focused. I must tell you that it
has been productive.
About six months before my wife gave birth, the scan showed that it was a
girl. So, we bought baby things for a female child. When I brought the
baby things to the hospital, I was congratulated by the nurses. I later
learnt that my wife was delivered of a baby boy. The baby had to put on
girl’s clothes for the first day.
productions both home and abroad. I have a production next month in the
US. I have been coping as a father, actor and husband. I also appreciate
my wife who has been so supportive of my work. My wife’s name is Ngozi.
She is an actor, costume designer and a gospel artiste.
licence to misbehave. I try to be friends with everyone even when it is
not convenient for me. But because of the nature of my work, one can
also say I am a public property. I bend over backwards sometimes to be
nice to people. The smile one puts on the face of someone might be what
the person needs to brighten up for the day. If one denies the person
such, he or she may develop resentment which may last for a long time.
but I serve as a good example to them by my deeds. I make them copy good
habits and exhibit same. I believe that by the grace of God, they will
impact positively on their generation.