2013, has actually stood the test of time because it was given six months to
break up. But Kayode Salako and wife, actress, Foluke Daramola are waxing
shared in their three-and-a-half-year old union.
since he was also divorced at that time?
never proved to me that she was the sterotypical actress. She is a very good
cook, washes my underwear, she is homely and not outgoing. In fact, I now prod
her to go out. She prefers to be at home with her husband and the children. She
is very reasonable, mentally upright, focus and ambitious. She is godly and she
can recite 25 psalms in the Bible off hand. She is not money conscious, fun to
be with and till date, we still live as friends. We have many things in common.
We are activists, we both believe in fighting for our rights.”
“I wasn’t expecting to marry a perfect woman. I have decided to be her father,
her boss, her friend and a teacher. When I was getting married, I told everyone
in my family to go all out and make inquiries if she is my wife. I consulted
about 65 pastors before I made up my mind on her.”
apologises when there is a misunderstanding?
mother of two replied, “I was in a marriage before, so making amends when there
is a wrong is no problem. Most of the time, I say, ‘I’m sorry,’ it does not
cost anything to apologise. If not given, it can degenerate to anything. Fortunately,
he does not suffer from inferiority complex. The kind of upbringing I have is
contentment and love. I want to have my husband, children and run my home. When
we were about getting married, my father-in-law was skeptical and some of his
siblings. I made everybody realise that acting is a profession, which I happen
to find myself.”
“Foluke is stubbornly reasonable but quick to accept her fault. She kneels down
and apologises and sometimes, sheds tears to show she is indeed sorry. I love
her very much, she is like my baby and I don’t fail to tell her when she is wrong.
Our quarrel doesn’t last an hour. We are not in this marriage by accident but
by the will of God.”
a marriage successful?
“Maintain that channel of communication. Discuss it all because when you don’t
tell her she might not know. Secondly, understand each other. Know your wife
and who she is. You must also be friends. Also a man should learn to overlook
especially if you are married to a celebrity. I read a book where a writer said
nothing is a problem, only thinking makes it so. If you attach meanings to
every issue, marriage heads for the rocks. Not all the time should you overlook
but when you want to make a complaint let it be in the confines of your
bedroom. Let the man be mentally mature too and be confident in himself. Also,
learn to share. A man should not allow his wife do all the chores and he wants
to share her money with her, it fails. She is not your slave, she is a human
being that deserves happiness.”
“The woman is motivated by what she hears and the man, what he sees. Women make
the mistake of not spicing up their marriage. What are those things that
attracted him to you? Then, don’t stop. He loves my legs and I wear short
skirts at home for him. You have to put your man on his toes. Read books and
know what excite your marriage. Also, men don’t tell their wives ‘I love you.’
Pay her compliments. I wash his undies, cook special diet. In fact celebs go
the extra mile to make marriage work. We try to pamper, make men feel special
and want homes. We need confident men. Take care of your man. Say, ‘I love you’.
My husband tells me every morning, ‘I love you.’