written by Queen
When reading through stories of amazing proposals and re-proposals and
rings with mighty rocks, I usually go straight to the comments and try
to understand people’s perspective of such stories.
Having read a lot of those, I realized that most ladies are now more
scared of getting proposed to with a tiny rock or without the usual
paparazzi than they are at the thought of the man not proposing to them
at all.
important question and she wanted to be sure she isn’t making a mistake.
Eagerly, after the whole introduction of calming her down, I asked her
what was making her so worried. For some weird reason I actually thought
she wanted to cancel the wedding, but didn’t know how to go about it.
(I guess it’s because I treasured their love story and didn’t want any
surprises, so I prepared my mind for the worse)
She finally had the courage and asked, “Babe, do you think it is absurd
that Jide didn’t propose with a ring and in front of everyone”?
What? Whew!
While I was trying to get my head around the not-so-tough question, I
asked her why she was suddenly bothered by that fact as they had been
planning the wedding for 14 months and been together for 6years. She
answered that everyone she had sent invite to have either asked her to
send them a picture of her ring or share her proposal story. And every
time she answered that she had neither of both, they made it look like
she was making a mistake.
Oh! I see.
am a sucker for romantic stories and thoughtful acts, but I just wish
everyone would do what truly pleases them and let the pressure stay on
social media.
First, my friend Ronke is a very private person who started dating Jide
from University days and always talked about how Jide couldn’t wait for
her to be done so they could get married.
So, it was almost normal when she finished her compulsory National
Service and asked that Jide could visit her parent officially with his
family whenever he was ready.
Jide who was just waiting for her to be done, visited the same month she
got back and at that first meeting, the parents asked them when they
planned on getting married and excitedly by default, they chose a date.
Don’t forget Jide truly loves Ronke and she also loves Jide happily, so they had started the plans enthusiastically.
Now, she is all of a sudden thinking maybe he should have formally knelt
down and given her a huge ring so that she can share her
stories/pictures with the world?
Come on, Ronke; I said.
I don’t think anyone should bother about that. Your love story is so
sweet and two of you genuinely love and adore each other so why should
anything anyone says matter?
I understand why she was thinking about it and hoping maybe Jide will
officially propose even though they were getting married in the
following week… But that shouldn’t even make anyone break a sweat. (I
think).
The original intention of proposing is to UNPREDICTABLY ask your partner to marry you. Usually,
it is unexpected because you haven’t both really committed or agreed to
doing this and the relationship’s next step sits at either 50% chance
of a proposal or 50% chance of a break up. Hence, the SURPRISE.
However, I find it hilarious and maybe pretentious when I see people who
have done either their traditional marriage/introduction or court
wedding share a proposal story, acting all surprised that he asked her
to marry him… Come, on babe. You already married him or going to marry
him anyway.
I can’t wrap my head around the reason behind those tears or screams and
stunned face… Why? Except maybe they got excited by the rock (which I
think can be given privately).
…cheers and happy married life to everyone who just got proposed to (secretly or openly).