Head Pastor of Christ Embassy, Chris Oyakhilome posted this message on his Facebook page hours ago. The message is for married women and those intending to get married, enjoy!
Who is a HUSBAND and what is His Role?
Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.
The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that
women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe
they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold
enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage
and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by
their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest
problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another
woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that
union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to
understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife
and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to
know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you
say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The
Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so
when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority
sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.
When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a
rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are
not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making
woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and
before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he
had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of
man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.
Genesis
2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be
alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big
difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him
an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special
advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him
someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to
help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every
home then you won’t have problems.
I tell people that you don’t
need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no
husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t
want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in
obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is
in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that
please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.
A
man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good
wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a
rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the
easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That
place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a
place of love. It’s a place of excellence.
Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of
him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over
him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.
A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish
one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when
you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your
husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because
that is where your beauty is.
Once you stop listening, your
beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it,
he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s
where the Glory is.