seminar and she was a volunteer at the event .She was on the
registration desk and was the first person I met at the programme.
beauty caught my eye. I grew up with some personal values and at the
time I met my wife, I was still a virgin. I told myself I wouldn’t have
sex until after marriage. Luckily for me, my wife was also a virgin
before we tied the knot.
opposition was from my mum. My mum is a very religious person. She is a
devoted member of Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries. She didn’t
want me to marry someone in the limelight. My mum wanted me to get
married to someone with a regular job. At first, it wasn’t easy for my
mum to accept my husband because he’s a musician but after a while, she
realised he is a good Christian, a good man and a man who has the right
Except that the members of my family had become accustomed to my former
partner. After meeting with my wife a few times, they liked her.
courting. I did not agree to date him because he is a musician. What
got me attracted to him is that he has a heart for God. My husband was
more spiritual than I was at the time we were dating. I told myself that
if this guy is so rooted in God and loves God, he would not disappoint
journey. Basically, it’s been quite tasking. I recollect that the first
few months of our marriage were challenging. There were a lot of
misunderstandings but we went past that and we are still growing.
Marriage revealed so much about me that I had no prior knowledge of.
Before I got married, I thought I was the nicest and coolest person
anybody could ever get married too. After marriage, I realised I was not
who I thought I was. The Holy Spirit helped and still helps us to
control our emotions.
me to be selfless and more calculative. Marriage, when done right, makes
you a better person and it has made me a better person.
for a third party in our marriage. We’ve never allowed a third party to
settle our issues. We always do that ourselves.
joint account. Our accounts are transparent. We have each other’s ATM
pins and we both get notifications on every transaction we make.
‘joint operations’ whereby we see virtually everything about our
financial transactions. We are both open about our finances.
relationship with God is the only key to a successful marriage and I do
this by praying a lot. I would add that marriage is beyond love.
the celebration. I remember speaking somewhere and after the talk, some
female undergraduates walked up to me and said they love my husband’s
music and have a crush on him. I told them he’s also my crush and we all
accounts can be accessed on my wife’s phone. My wife set an alert on my
tweets, so she gets notified immediately I reply a tweet on Twitter. It
feels good to know I have been a good guy. I don’t find it intrusive, I
find it safe. It keeps me on check.
husband about my admirers especially whenever they compliment me. I like
to make him feel a bit jealous. I like to make light of every
different reasons for doing so. A celebrity is bound to face more
temptations and if you fail to resist them, make sure you remember that
everybody is watching. Whether you are a celebrity or not, there are no
restrictions in marriage.
well in that area and it can only keep getting better. I owe the success
of our marriage in the area of finances to my wife.