Hi Kemi,
I hope this column aint only for women. I earnestly desire the advice of kfbers on a marital issue I am
currently facing.
I got married in 2010 to my beautiful wife; she actually
is the woman of my dreams. We are blessed with three wonderful kids.
After our marriage, we agreed we would only have a kid so that we could focus on our career since we are both young but we apparently did
not make preparations and she got pregnant again when our first child was a year old.
When she found out she was
pregnant, the first thing she could think about was an abortion. I was able to persuade her and she gave birth to a set of twins.
The twins are about two years old now and all seemed okay until a month ago.
My 25 years old wife
whom I love so much told me the weirdest thing I have ever heard. In her words,
“…I want us to stop having sex for the main time”. I asked why and she just
gave what I call a flimsy excuse. As a husband that should understand his wife,
I gave in to her demand.
Prior to this time, our sex life has been great. We both
wanted to have sex. So I thought by “main time” she meant a week or so. But when
she didn’t say anything after 28days, I couldn’t take it anymore so I sat her
down few days ago and asked her why.
My wife there again told me the most
unbelievable thing I ever heard. In her words, “…I love you so much honey, but I
have decided to be CELIBATE for the next 6months…and I want us to do this
together”. At first I thought she was afraid of getting pregnant again, I told
her there were other things we could do if she didn’t want to get pregnant, but
she said there are other reasons why she was not going to have sex with me for
the next 6months.
First, she didn’t even tell me before she took such decision
and secondly, she wants me to be CELIBATE for 6months. I haven’t had to cheat
on my wife since we met. She is all I ever want in a
woman. But this one is too big for me to handle. I told her I would need some time
to think about it.
I know she can’t be cheating on me with another guy, but why
would a wife not want to have sex with her husband. I can’t force her to sleep
with me, I have never had to, I don’t want to cheat on her and I don’t want to
be CELIBATE. WHAT DO I DO?