A new report in gooo/” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Punch newspaper, has shown how young desperate Nigerians consult seers for life partners, enjoy the long but eye opening piece below:
Thirty
three-year-old Chinasa Nwachukwu wore a forlorn look as she sat in her
father’s living room that Tuesday morning. Nothing around her immediate
environment appealed to her. Not even a breaking news on the television
that morning could awaken her consciousness. The young lady had a
different thing occupying her mind. She was pondering the outcome of the
journey she made the previous day to Ikorodu, a town on the outskirts
of Lagos, where she had consulted a spiritualist to seek divination over
whether the man in her life was the right person for her.
three-year-old Chinasa Nwachukwu wore a forlorn look as she sat in her
father’s living room that Tuesday morning. Nothing around her immediate
environment appealed to her. Not even a breaking news on the television
that morning could awaken her consciousness. The young lady had a
different thing occupying her mind. She was pondering the outcome of the
journey she made the previous day to Ikorodu, a town on the outskirts
of Lagos, where she had consulted a spiritualist to seek divination over
whether the man in her life was the right person for her.
But instead of getting a favourable
solution, the outcome of her search for divine assistance threw more
confusion into her life. The spiritualist had warned her to desist from
being engaged to the man who had asked her hand in marriage. According
to the seer, the two are not compatible and so doom could trail their
union.
solution, the outcome of her search for divine assistance threw more
confusion into her life. The spiritualist had warned her to desist from
being engaged to the man who had asked her hand in marriage. According
to the seer, the two are not compatible and so doom could trail their
union.
Heartbroken and downcast, the University
of Port Harcourt graduate could not understand how, in a twinkle of an
eye, a relationship that she had nurtured and sustained for five years
could come crashing like a pack of cards. Her romance with Henry, her
suitor, is known to all and sundry. In fact, friends and well-wishers
have been looking forward to the formalisation of their union. But with
the verdict of the spiritualist, those lofty expectations appear to have
fizzled into thin air. This situation has left Nwachukwu deeply
confused. Can she dismiss the prediction of the spiritualist and go on
with life or should she tarry awhile and look out for another suitor?
But time is running against her.
of Port Harcourt graduate could not understand how, in a twinkle of an
eye, a relationship that she had nurtured and sustained for five years
could come crashing like a pack of cards. Her romance with Henry, her
suitor, is known to all and sundry. In fact, friends and well-wishers
have been looking forward to the formalisation of their union. But with
the verdict of the spiritualist, those lofty expectations appear to have
fizzled into thin air. This situation has left Nwachukwu deeply
confused. Can she dismiss the prediction of the spiritualist and go on
with life or should she tarry awhile and look out for another suitor?
But time is running against her.
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33-year-old’s situation is nothing strange these days. Young people of
different ages and backgrounds across Nigeria now engage the services of
spiritualists–pastors, Islamic clerics, astrologers and traditionalists
– before making important marriage decisions. Even with so much
education and exposure, many Nigerians still elect to believe a seer
they don’t know rather than follow their hearts in making a choice of a
life partner. According to latest findings by Saturday Punch, most of such spiritual predictions have largely been inaccurate.
33-year-old’s situation is nothing strange these days. Young people of
different ages and backgrounds across Nigeria now engage the services of
spiritualists–pastors, Islamic clerics, astrologers and traditionalists
– before making important marriage decisions. Even with so much
education and exposure, many Nigerians still elect to believe a seer
they don’t know rather than follow their hearts in making a choice of a
life partner. According to latest findings by Saturday Punch, most of such spiritual predictions have largely been inaccurate.
Arit Ikpeme, a 34-year-old nurse working
in one of the general hospitals in Lagos, told one of our correspondents
how her father insisted she visit a spiritualist to ascertain if her
fiancé, Etim, was the right man for her.
in one of the general hospitals in Lagos, told one of our correspondents
how her father insisted she visit a spiritualist to ascertain if her
fiancé, Etim, was the right man for her.
“The spiritualist was a female. She
didn’t collect any money from us. She said I should open my palms and I
did. She went into prayers and started mumbling. Later on, she said I
should go ahead and marry the guy that he was the perfect man for me.”
didn’t collect any money from us. She said I should open my palms and I
did. She went into prayers and started mumbling. Later on, she said I
should go ahead and marry the guy that he was the perfect man for me.”
But against all expectations, the verdict did not only backfire, it was one mistake Ikpeme said almost ruined her life.
“One year into the marriage, the guy
began battering and humiliating me. I had my reservations but I felt the
spiritualist ‘heard’ from God so I decided to go into it when she said I
should. When I had it up to my throat, I fled for my life. I divorced
the guy two years ago,” she said.
began battering and humiliating me. I had my reservations but I felt the
spiritualist ‘heard’ from God so I decided to go into it when she said I
should. When I had it up to my throat, I fled for my life. I divorced
the guy two years ago,” she said.
But even with this glaring false
predictions, many Nigerians continue to patronise spiritualists and
seers to help pick their future partners. One of our correspondents who
posed as a single lady, visited a prophet, Tosin Adedoja, in the Ajuwon
area of Lagos under the guise of wanting to know the one to choose
between the two men in her life. The prophet asked for the names of the
guys before going into prayers. Few minutes later, he had got his
‘revelation.’
predictions, many Nigerians continue to patronise spiritualists and
seers to help pick their future partners. One of our correspondents who
posed as a single lady, visited a prophet, Tosin Adedoja, in the Ajuwon
area of Lagos under the guise of wanting to know the one to choose
between the two men in her life. The prophet asked for the names of the
guys before going into prayers. Few minutes later, he had got his
‘revelation.’
“There are two men. One is fair, the
other is dark. The fair one is not too tall and the dark one is very
tall. The siblings of the fair one like you a lot. They want you to
marry their brother. As for the dark one, his mother doesn’t really like
you,” he said.
other is dark. The fair one is not too tall and the dark one is very
tall. The siblings of the fair one like you a lot. They want you to
marry their brother. As for the dark one, his mother doesn’t really like
you,” he said.
He added: “The fair one is your husband.
But there is a problem. There is a snake on your forehead. It will get
to a time he will be seeing this snake and he wouldn’t want the marriage
to hold again or even if you had married at that time, he would want to
kick you out.”
But there is a problem. There is a snake on your forehead. It will get
to a time he will be seeing this snake and he wouldn’t want the marriage
to hold again or even if you had married at that time, he would want to
kick you out.”
Our correspondent asked the prophet what
could be done to avert this calamity, and a new dimension was introduced
into the drama.
could be done to avert this calamity, and a new dimension was introduced
into the drama.
“Bring a white clothe, new bible, a bell
and a bucket. We will put the bible in the water and use the water to
bathe you. Then you will wear the white clothe. All this will cost you
N15, 000. And by the way, I will invite three prayer warriors for the
three days and you will give them ‘something’ after the prayers,”
Adedoja said.
and a bucket. We will put the bible in the water and use the water to
bathe you. Then you will wear the white clothe. All this will cost you
N15, 000. And by the way, I will invite three prayer warriors for the
three days and you will give them ‘something’ after the prayers,”
Adedoja said.
Our correspondent visited another female spiritualist in Mbaise, Imo State, known only as Mama, to find out if she could still go ahead and marry the man in her life. Like Adedoja, Mama asked for the name of the man in the lady’s life before going into prayers.
“No way! He is not for you,” she screamed. “I hope he has not ‘entered’ you. Do not marry him otherwise you will regret it.”
Our correspondent asked Mama if
she gets patronage from people seeking to know if they were making the
right choices, the spiritualist was quick to reel out her ‘impressive’
resume.
she gets patronage from people seeking to know if they were making the
right choices, the spiritualist was quick to reel out her ‘impressive’
resume.
“I have never been wrong. It is just that
you came in the evening. People troop in here to find out the truth
about their future partners. It is God that gave me the gift to know
about this. Men and women come here to know if they are making the right
choices,” she said.
you came in the evening. People troop in here to find out the truth
about their future partners. It is God that gave me the gift to know
about this. Men and women come here to know if they are making the right
choices,” she said.
Indeed, the idea of ladies and even men
aspiring to know if they were making the right marriage choices is not
limited to the ignorant, illiterate or uncivilised. A nurse, Catherine,
who resides in the United States, told Saturday PUNCH recently how a prophet revealed to her the man she should marry.
aspiring to know if they were making the right marriage choices is not
limited to the ignorant, illiterate or uncivilised. A nurse, Catherine,
who resides in the United States, told Saturday PUNCH recently how a prophet revealed to her the man she should marry.
“The pastor told me the man was the right
person for me. He insisted I shouldn’t miss that opportunity because I
would find it difficult to get another man. He told me the marriage was
ordained by God and that I should quickly make up my mind and marry him.
I did that and he eventually came to the US. Soon after he arrived, he
showed me his true colour and destroyed my happiness,” she said.
person for me. He insisted I shouldn’t miss that opportunity because I
would find it difficult to get another man. He told me the marriage was
ordained by God and that I should quickly make up my mind and marry him.
I did that and he eventually came to the US. Soon after he arrived, he
showed me his true colour and destroyed my happiness,” she said.
The marriage didn’t last up to one year. The two went their separate ways.
Samuel Damilola, a banker based in Lagos,
told one of our correspondents how he missed the woman who would have
brought ‘sunshine’ into his life because his pastor told him not to
marry her.
told one of our correspondents how he missed the woman who would have
brought ‘sunshine’ into his life because his pastor told him not to
marry her.
“She was there for me for more than two
years when I had nothing. She encouraged me and even offered financial
help. Everybody in my home loved her. She was practically living with me
and it was generally believed that we would get married.
years when I had nothing. She encouraged me and even offered financial
help. Everybody in my home loved her. She was practically living with me
and it was generally believed that we would get married.
“But I still wasn’t sure until I went to
visit my pastor and gave him her name. He told me she wasn’t my wife and
that I should not marry her. I actually took her name to four other
pastors who told me not to marry her. I married another woman and just a
year after the marriage, the woman began to mess around with other men.
I am filled with regrets today,” he said.
visit my pastor and gave him her name. He told me she wasn’t my wife and
that I should not marry her. I actually took her name to four other
pastors who told me not to marry her. I married another woman and just a
year after the marriage, the woman began to mess around with other men.
I am filled with regrets today,” he said.
However, there are some who claim that
their visit to spiritualists helped them make the best decision and that
their marriage is the better for it.
their visit to spiritualists helped them make the best decision and that
their marriage is the better for it.
Udoka Njoku, a seamstress who resides in Abuja, told Saturday PUNCH that she actually chose the man the prophet recommended for her and has no regret till date.
“I had two suitors back then. I was in
love with one of them but my pastor advised me to go with the other and I
did. Just two years after, the other man I was in love with died. If I
hadn’t followed my pastor’s advice, I would have been a widow by now. I
am really glad I listened to the man of God,” she said.
love with one of them but my pastor advised me to go with the other and I
did. Just two years after, the other man I was in love with died. If I
hadn’t followed my pastor’s advice, I would have been a widow by now. I
am really glad I listened to the man of God,” she said.
This ageless practice cut across religion
and beliefs. One of our correspondents who visited an Islamic cleric at
Ipaja Road in Lagos, Ustaz Muludun, was told by the man that he was
wise for coming for marriage prayers. Muludun looked solemn, nodded
intermittently as he listened to the story of how this correspondent was
confused about whom to choose among the three women in his life, who
were of course non-existent.
and beliefs. One of our correspondents who visited an Islamic cleric at
Ipaja Road in Lagos, Ustaz Muludun, was told by the man that he was
wise for coming for marriage prayers. Muludun looked solemn, nodded
intermittently as he listened to the story of how this correspondent was
confused about whom to choose among the three women in his life, who
were of course non-existent.
“Can you get a photo of the three women?”
he asked. A time was set for the following day and our correspondent
came with two photos printed from the internet and another picture of a
married friend.
he asked. A time was set for the following day and our correspondent
came with two photos printed from the internet and another picture of a
married friend.
“No wonder you are confused,” he said, looking into the photographs. “But God will reveal the truth.”
Our correspondent was asked to stay outside as he went into prayers. Thirty minutes later, the cleric had a solution.
“Have you at any point in time
impregnated anyone of these ladies?” he queried. Our correspondent
answered in the negative: “No sir!”
impregnated anyone of these ladies?” he queried. Our correspondent
answered in the negative: “No sir!”
“Okay, prayer never lies, prayer always
shows the way,” the cleric continued. “Your destiny is tied to this
woman,” he handed one of the photos from the internet to our
correspondent. After a pretentious appreciation, our correspondent
handed N2,000 to Muludun and left.
shows the way,” the cleric continued. “Your destiny is tied to this
woman,” he handed one of the photos from the internet to our
correspondent. After a pretentious appreciation, our correspondent
handed N2,000 to Muludun and left.
Another Islamic cleric reputed for
spiritually guiding intending couples on their choices of life partners,
flatly feigned ignorance when approached by another of our
correspondent on the veracity of such predictions.
spiritually guiding intending couples on their choices of life partners,
flatly feigned ignorance when approached by another of our
correspondent on the veracity of such predictions.
“All we do here is pray after which you are free to take your decisions,” he said.
His denial was later explained by another
Islamic cleric in the Ojodu area of Lagos, Mallam Idris Yahaha, who
said such predictions were against the tenets of Islamic and that
clerics will not readily admit it. He confirmed that many young people
visit him seeking ‘marriage vision.’
Islamic cleric in the Ojodu area of Lagos, Mallam Idris Yahaha, who
said such predictions were against the tenets of Islamic and that
clerics will not readily admit it. He confirmed that many young people
visit him seeking ‘marriage vision.’
“There is a big difference between
marriage in the past and now. But despite that we still get visits from a
lot of young people who are about to marry. Majority of them don’t come
for mere prayers. They come here demanding that we look into the future
for them, to see if the person they intend to marry would be good for
them.
marriage in the past and now. But despite that we still get visits from a
lot of young people who are about to marry. Majority of them don’t come
for mere prayers. They come here demanding that we look into the future
for them, to see if the person they intend to marry would be good for
them.
“But my answer to such people is always
the same. All we can do is to pray along with them. There are set of
prayers in the Quaran for such purposes. I am not a seer because such
practice is not permitted by Islam.
the same. All we can do is to pray along with them. There are set of
prayers in the Quaran for such purposes. I am not a seer because such
practice is not permitted by Islam.
“In those days, parents would advise that
one take part in prayer sessions for marriage and the divorce rate in
those days was low, the same with unwanted pregnancies. Nowadays, people
just want a seer to help look into what the future holds. That is not
what the Quaran says,” he said.
one take part in prayer sessions for marriage and the divorce rate in
those days was low, the same with unwanted pregnancies. Nowadays, people
just want a seer to help look into what the future holds. That is not
what the Quaran says,” he said.
Asked how such young people acted when
told prayer was the only way out, Yahaha said in cases where such
individuals cannot read Arabic, the translated version of the marriage
prayers is handed to them but that some of them usually feel
disappointed.
told prayer was the only way out, Yahaha said in cases where such
individuals cannot read Arabic, the translated version of the marriage
prayers is handed to them but that some of them usually feel
disappointed.
Another Islamic cleric, who did not want
his name in print, said that those who indulge in such practices were
merely defrauding the unsuspecting members of the public.
his name in print, said that those who indulge in such practices were
merely defrauding the unsuspecting members of the public.
“What they don’t know is that these
clerics are fraudulent. No genuine Islamic cleric or believer in the
tenets of Islam would indulge in this kind of divination,” he said.
clerics are fraudulent. No genuine Islamic cleric or believer in the
tenets of Islam would indulge in this kind of divination,” he said.
A star-sign specialist, Gboyega Bamgbose,
believes that most marriages collapse because couples no longer
consider finding out the zodiac compatibility with their partners before
tying the knot. Bamgbose said taking this step before marrying someone
could avert so many evils in the like of the union.
believes that most marriages collapse because couples no longer
consider finding out the zodiac compatibility with their partners before
tying the knot. Bamgbose said taking this step before marrying someone
could avert so many evils in the like of the union.
When one of our correspondents visited
Bamgbose to get answers on which of the women in his life to marry, what
he learnt was shocking and at the same time bemusing. Our correspondent
gave his name as Akorede and the name of the lady in question as
Omolabake (both fake names). The spiritualist commenced his divination
with vigour.
Bamgbose to get answers on which of the women in his life to marry, what
he learnt was shocking and at the same time bemusing. Our correspondent
gave his name as Akorede and the name of the lady in question as
Omolabake (both fake names). The spiritualist commenced his divination
with vigour.
“Her sign is wind and yours is fire, the
two of you would surely make a good couple. Forget about the other woman
and concentrate on this one, she will bring you happiness and the two
of you shall enjoy long life. The two of you have been together for
almost three years now and will continue to be together for a very long
time. That is your wife, hold her tight,” he said.
two of you would surely make a good couple. Forget about the other woman
and concentrate on this one, she will bring you happiness and the two
of you shall enjoy long life. The two of you have been together for
almost three years now and will continue to be together for a very long
time. That is your wife, hold her tight,” he said.
It was an impressive show, but
unfortunately, our correspondent is already married with a child. It was
one encounter that shed light into the deceit many Nigerians now have
to endure while searching for spiritual answers.
unfortunately, our correspondent is already married with a child. It was
one encounter that shed light into the deceit many Nigerians now have
to endure while searching for spiritual answers.
Bamgbose explained how he arrives at his
predictions, though. He said, “The problem is that a lot of our people
have abandoned the way things used to be done in the past when our
fathers were still around. Nowadays, a man and a woman could meet
themselves today and even marry the next day without first checking if
their stars are compatible. I have been doing this job for a long time
and I know how important this can be for any marriage.
predictions, though. He said, “The problem is that a lot of our people
have abandoned the way things used to be done in the past when our
fathers were still around. Nowadays, a man and a woman could meet
themselves today and even marry the next day without first checking if
their stars are compatible. I have been doing this job for a long time
and I know how important this can be for any marriage.
“For intending couples, what we do is to
match the name of the woman and the man on what we call Isabi. The
result we get reveals to us if they will be compatible or not. For
example, once we place the name of the woman on the Isabi against the man’s, it gives us nine results with different meanings.
match the name of the woman and the man on what we call Isabi. The
result we get reveals to us if they will be compatible or not. For
example, once we place the name of the woman on the Isabi against the man’s, it gives us nine results with different meanings.
“But the real star signs are divided into
four and they are water, fire, sand and wind. As individuals, these are
the different signs with which we are born. If a woman with a fire sign
marries a man with a sand sign, it becomes a problem because fire and
sand are not compatible. This could lead to eternal poverty and lack.”
four and they are water, fire, sand and wind. As individuals, these are
the different signs with which we are born. If a woman with a fire sign
marries a man with a sand sign, it becomes a problem because fire and
sand are not compatible. This could lead to eternal poverty and lack.”
Bamgbose added, “But if a man with sand
sign marries a woman with water sign, they will enjoy each other and
their marriage will be fruitful. It is the same for a man and woman
carrying fire and wind signs, their union will be very blessed because
fire and wind can work together.
sign marries a woman with water sign, they will enjoy each other and
their marriage will be fruitful. It is the same for a man and woman
carrying fire and wind signs, their union will be very blessed because
fire and wind can work together.
“Basically these are the things we watch
out for when intending couples come to us. We do our best to guide them
correctly but if they still insist on marrying themselves after
explaining the dangers to them, we would have done our part, at least.
Such couples would never live happily together and one of them can even
die a few years into the union.
out for when intending couples come to us. We do our best to guide them
correctly but if they still insist on marrying themselves after
explaining the dangers to them, we would have done our part, at least.
Such couples would never live happily together and one of them can even
die a few years into the union.
“So, checking the star sign of your
partner before marriage is very important. Religion or education does
not stop us from finding out this very important information,” he said.
partner before marriage is very important. Religion or education does
not stop us from finding out this very important information,” he said.
But a marriage counsellor based in Lagos,
Pastor Shade Kehinde of Agape Generation International Church, said
those who engage the services of ‘seers’ and ‘prophets’ to determine
their life partners were doing the right thing the wrong way.
Pastor Shade Kehinde of Agape Generation International Church, said
those who engage the services of ‘seers’ and ‘prophets’ to determine
their life partners were doing the right thing the wrong way.
“It takes God to guide them to the right
path. It is not proper for a prophet to choose a life partner for
anybody. It is God that should guide you to make the right decision. We
all know God and God speaks to all of us. We have a relationship with
God. He will speak to you in any area of your life.
path. It is not proper for a prophet to choose a life partner for
anybody. It is God that should guide you to make the right decision. We
all know God and God speaks to all of us. We have a relationship with
God. He will speak to you in any area of your life.
“This has ruined a lot of people. Anybody
who goes to a ‘seer’ or ‘prophet’ can be misled. Go the extra mile and
speak to God yourself. The seer will not live with you when you are
married. God has blessed us with pastors and marriage counsellors who
are there to advise, guide and tell you the truth but not to make the
decisions for you,” she said.
who goes to a ‘seer’ or ‘prophet’ can be misled. Go the extra mile and
speak to God yourself. The seer will not live with you when you are
married. God has blessed us with pastors and marriage counsellors who
are there to advise, guide and tell you the truth but not to make the
decisions for you,” she said.
A sociologist, Tope Omogbemi, gave an
insight into the reasons why such practice still prevails among today’s
generation of Nigerians in spite of their education and exposure. He
said there was need to re-orientate many of today’s young people to
correct some of these anomalies.
insight into the reasons why such practice still prevails among today’s
generation of Nigerians in spite of their education and exposure. He
said there was need to re-orientate many of today’s young people to
correct some of these anomalies.
“One of the major factors responsible for
this type of practice can be traced to the family background and
orientation inculcated into the individual right from childhood. The
family as it were is the first agent of socialisation for an individual
as it plays a major role in the type of personality a child would grow
into.
this type of practice can be traced to the family background and
orientation inculcated into the individual right from childhood. The
family as it were is the first agent of socialisation for an individual
as it plays a major role in the type of personality a child would grow
into.
“However, there are also external factors
especially socio-economic factors. The truth is that people don’t want
to suffer in marriage in this part of the world, so they need some form
of security and guarantee to hold on to before venturing into it. In
Western countries, people have social security and other welfare
benefits that would almost eliminate any form of anxiety. So, in such
places, you are not likely to see people going to any spiritualist to
get answers to certain questions.
especially socio-economic factors. The truth is that people don’t want
to suffer in marriage in this part of the world, so they need some form
of security and guarantee to hold on to before venturing into it. In
Western countries, people have social security and other welfare
benefits that would almost eliminate any form of anxiety. So, in such
places, you are not likely to see people going to any spiritualist to
get answers to certain questions.
“But because over here a lot of people
live in lack and are afraid of the unknown, they are quick to run to
some of these people for what they consider security. The religious
organisations that do this merely use this strategy to maintain
dominance over their members. Anybody who runs to a spiritualist to help
determine a future partner would find out for the rest of his or her
life that he would always run back to such persons when trouble comes.
They become slaves to such persons for the rest of their lives. That is
the danger and so people must be wise before they embark on such
journeys,” he explained.
live in lack and are afraid of the unknown, they are quick to run to
some of these people for what they consider security. The religious
organisations that do this merely use this strategy to maintain
dominance over their members. Anybody who runs to a spiritualist to help
determine a future partner would find out for the rest of his or her
life that he would always run back to such persons when trouble comes.
They become slaves to such persons for the rest of their lives. That is
the danger and so people must be wise before they embark on such
journeys,” he explained.
Buchi Anyamaele, a psychologist based in
Enugu State in a telephone conversation with one of our correspondents
reiterated Omogbemi’s views. A drop in societal values and the need for a
change in the entire flows in socialisation process are some of the
factors responsible for the trend, according to him.
Enugu State in a telephone conversation with one of our correspondents
reiterated Omogbemi’s views. A drop in societal values and the need for a
change in the entire flows in socialisation process are some of the
factors responsible for the trend, according to him.
“It’s a simple issue if we must address
this phenomenon. I am sure you are aware it did not just begin today; it
is something that has happened in most African societies over the
years. But then you would have thought that with modern civilisation and
education, all these would have changed, no way. This is because our
family values have dropped and the socialisation process today is
largely flawed. As a result, individuals exhibit traits that leave them
largely insecure.
this phenomenon. I am sure you are aware it did not just begin today; it
is something that has happened in most African societies over the
years. But then you would have thought that with modern civilisation and
education, all these would have changed, no way. This is because our
family values have dropped and the socialisation process today is
largely flawed. As a result, individuals exhibit traits that leave them
largely insecure.
“It is in the quest of solving the
mysteries created by some of these fears that you see people running to
alfas and pastors and even traditionalists to check the compatibility
with their intending spouses. As a result of the flawed mindset, many of
such individuals also pass on this orientation to their children and so
the circle continues. That is the reason why a lot of individuals and
families are still engaged in this type of marriage test if I may use
that phrase,” he said.
mysteries created by some of these fears that you see people running to
alfas and pastors and even traditionalists to check the compatibility
with their intending spouses. As a result of the flawed mindset, many of
such individuals also pass on this orientation to their children and so
the circle continues. That is the reason why a lot of individuals and
families are still engaged in this type of marriage test if I may use
that phrase,” he said.
Indeed, the issue of picking a future
partner is a critical one for many young people across Nigeria today.
Apart from digging into a potential spouse’s family background, the
spiritual compatibility is also another dimension that is now a major
debate. Some analysts believe except relevant stakeholders including
religious leaders and relationship experts quickly come together to
address some of the key issues, many young people could continue to be
led the wrong way to the detriment of the society at large.
partner is a critical one for many young people across Nigeria today.
Apart from digging into a potential spouse’s family background, the
spiritual compatibility is also another dimension that is now a major
debate. Some analysts believe except relevant stakeholders including
religious leaders and relationship experts quickly come together to
address some of the key issues, many young people could continue to be
led the wrong way to the detriment of the society at large.