By now you should be used to the monthly ‘Waiting and Loving’ it series – all about couples that waited till their wedding night – how they
overcame the challenges etc…
Today, Lisa and Ikechukwu Nnamdi were featured on the blog.
They have such an amazing love story…Ike had no intention of marrying Lisa – she was his room mates’s girlfriend – but somehow God did it!
Hello Mr and Mrs Nnamdi! It’s
wonderful to meet you and we are really glad that you would be letting
us have a glimpse into your world! Please kindly give us a brief
introduction to yourselves:
Ikechukwu: We are Team Iyke made up of the highly prestigious and extremely beautiful NNAMDI TOOLISA NNEKA popularly referred to as Pst. Lisa and the simple NNAMDI IKECHUKWU SAMUEL
aka Pst. Iyke. We are certified marriage mentors and relationship
coaches. We got married on the 14th day of February 2009 and we are
headed to 6 years of amazing marital bliss.
Sealed on Valentine’s Day! |
acclaimed love day lol, however we strongly believe that every day is a
day of love.
Our hobbies are cooking, travelling, reading (my wife), while for me, it’s driving, flying, playing games and teaching.
Ikechukwu: We met in church, HOUSE ON THE ROCK, Enugu. I was
attracted to her dogged commitment and love for God, her immaculate
dress sense and her calm disposition.
Pst Iyke & Pst Lisa 🙂 |
un-miraculous 🙂 It was not the beautiful-flower-garden kind of
meeting, we weren’t even close before I proposed to her, but at that
point in my life as a young man, I needed to get married. So I went to
God in prayer and like many other men, I had some ladies in my mind.
Lisa, was not among the ladies I was considering and praying about, but
constantly her name, picture and consciousness was being impressed
strongly on my mind. Amazingly, I now know that the impression was from
God.
Why did I not consider her you may ask, well it’s a very interesting story.
She was based in Lagos at the time and in my nature I hosted
(accommodated) her boyfriend then and every evening they would speak
over the phone through the newly introduced ‘MTN midnight call’. They
were hoping to get married.
for the second time he came back to my house, but this time around,
some things had happened and they weren’t communicating as much as they
did previously. I was actually concerned, I tried mediating but he
warned me seriously that I should not disturb him and that if I wanted I
could marry her myself.
Now you know why I was never going to consider her. I didn’t want to
appear as a ‘wife-snatcher’. I also said that to God when He kept
impressing her on my mind. Then God asked me, “Are you the one who joined them? Did you proclaim them husband and wife?” and then I heard in my spirit that if I don’t pay attention to her my search will not come to an end.
Back to my story, like I said, I proposed to my wife in a rather
unconventional way. It was in my office at the church. I did not even
kneel to propose! (which is the norm) I only said, “Take a good
look at me from now henceforth. Observe me closely as I lead prayers,
preach, carry myself about, do what I do and if you think that you can
live with what you see as a husband, come and give me your answer. If it
is a “Yes”, let me know and if it is “No” still let me know.”
I’m sorry if the story is getting long, but I must end it by saying that
the best way to know that a lady is your wife is to have that clear and
explosive assurance from God. Your wife to be should not strike a cord,
she should bring a BOMB! You must get to that point where you say “this is now the (BOMB)”: “Bone Of My Bone”. I call it the point of absolute assurance
and that point is not triggered by curves, edges or boobs. It’s nice
for your wife to have all the departments in place but marriage is more
than all the departments being in place. Her finger tips, lips and hips
might or might not be in place as you like, but that is not as important
as her being from God. Do you have that absolute assurance that will
make you explode like Adam did and say “This is NOW (search is over) the Bone Of My Bone?…”
Please always remember that “A prudent wife is a gift from God…” (Prov 19:14). I am absolutely and totally blessed that I married my baby and best friend.
student/teacher one, because he was my teacher when I was going through
the foundation classes as a new member. During the classes, I loved his
fragrance and neatness, admired his passion for teaching especially on
relationship/marriage related topics. I wouldn’t say I was attracted to
him before he proposed to me (considering that I met him through my ex, I
never imagined he would ever ask me to marry him!) but I just wished
silently in my heart for God to give me a man like him. Amazingly, God
did not give me a man like him but him.
In fact, I confessed to him later in our marriage that I wanted to say
YES on that very day he proposed to me but I just decided to be a lady
and not appear too ‘easy’. Then as we got into courtship, I was swept
off my feet by his simplicity, humility, sincerity, sense of humour and
compassionate heart.
Wow, that’s a very unconventional
and interesting meeting! It’s great to receive that assurance and peace
from God about any matter. Thanks for being honest and real with us.
Next question, why do you think it’s important to keep sex in the
context of marriage?
Ikechukwu: THE BIBLE, which we refer to as our manual says that “Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled” (Heb 13:4). Bed-defilement negatively affects the honour in marriage.
to do the donts, they wreck the product. For instance, if I poured water
into my car tank instead of fuel, I would simply be making a statement
that I don’t want this car to last.
so that people can study and find out how to utilise and maximise the
product. If you are very protective of your car and you are wise not to
pour water in the fuel tank, then you should be even more protective and
wiser when it comes to your marriage.
Lisa: I dabbled into a relationship immediately after my
secondary school and I was so immature, naive and clueless about the
intricacies of dating. It got me distracted and actually cost me a lot,
including my virginity. That’s something I do regret; in hindsight, I
would have preferred to wait until my wedding night.
into any serious relationship until probably after university. I believe
I would have been a lot more mature and wiser to avoid most of the
mistakes I made.
that I married late, but I am disturbed at the rate at which we do some
important things very late. Men marry late and at 60 they are still
doing school runs. So when their sons or daughters are grown and ready
to marry, they are close or even in the grave! lol. I would be lying if I
said that I don’t know why some men delay getting married. Some of them
are willing, but the economy is weak.
Lol.. may their willingness be translated to action!
some space and we encourage you to affirm each other, you’ve chatted
with us, now it’s time to express yourselves to each other 🙂
Ikechukwu
and like I always say, if God would allow marriage in Heaven, I would
marry you with all delight and pleasure. I love loving you and God bless
that wonderful day when you said “YES I WILL MARRY YOU!” Just look at
me now! You’ve transformed an ugly man into a super handsome dude. You
are too much. I LOVE YOU!
Lisa
the woman I never thought I would ever become. ‘Pst. Lisa’ is now a
brand courtesy of you. I’m grateful to God for giving you to me, I’m
happy I followed you, I’m glad I married you. We shall continually live
our dreams, together forever, till death do us part. I love loving you!
Onye nwem gozie gi! (My Lord bless you)
Don’t get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing! |
been great reading and learning from the Nnamdis. Sometimes, God doesn’t
work in the ‘obvious’ ways, however His ways are always marked with
peace, joy and contentment.
Water. It’s always best to know what the manual says and to follow
closely to get the very best use.
what the past says, once we take that step to Him, He is able to revive
and restore all. He is also able to give the grace to do it!
I am #WaitingandLovingIt, Yes I can! 🙂