We had just to share this eye opening interview that Diary of A Naija Girl (DANG) recently published on her blog, kindly read below:
Love is not Enough But It is Key
My name is Sunday Oladimeji. This is my wife, Mrs Titilayo Oladimeji
We got married in 1976. The moment I saw her at a party in Ogbomosho
in 1975 I knew she would be my wife. She was sitting by herself, but
smiling. When I walked up to her, she was very respectful but it still
took a while for her to agree to marry me. She made me travel to
Ogbomosho to see her every weekend.
Mrs Oladimeji (cuts in): But you didn’t mind now. You were afraid
someone else will marry me that’s why you came to mark register every
weekend
Mr Oladimeji (Smiling now): But you still married me despite all your “shakara”
Mrs Oladimeji: Sunday is a great man, he gave me all I wanted from
the very first day I saw him. If he has 1naira he would share it with me
Mr Oladimeji: But she spent the 1naira like it was 1k. It still amazes me how she can buy a lot with the small money I give her
Mrs Oladimeji (Laughs out loud): It’s a secret. A woman should know
how to manage the home, to make sure little is spent wisely so it can
look like much. When you marry a man you love, you thank God every day.
Sunday treats everyone like they are important, this makes me see God in
him, so he is my second god. Even my children know they cannot compete
with my husband
DANG: Is love enough in a marriage
Mrs
Oladimeji: It is not but it is key. After we got married, I moved in
with him in Lagos. We were managing one room with some of his brothers,
he was the one training them. Things were really hard. Sometimes I got
frustrated but Sunday was working so hard doing his trailer work and
sometimes assistant driver. The man was doing his best, so I decided to
help too, that way, I didn’t have to wait at home feeling bad
Mr Oladimeji: Yes. She helped and I am very proud of her. After
driving trailer for days, all I want to do is come home. Even till now,
she looks at me with so much love when I get back from tour, like a
child. We are happy, our children have graduated and they are building a
house for us. All our hard work has paid off. A man who cherishes peace
and long life will marry the right woman. This way, life’s problems
will reduce by 70%