A few weekends ago, we brought you photos from the wedding of veteran Ebenezer Obey’s daughter, Orejaiye Fabiyi to Oba Sejiro Olalekan Ogungbe James – the Aholu of Kweme Kingdom, Badagry, in Abeokuta. Now we have got their thrilling love story, enjoy below:
Let’s talk about your marriage to Kabiyesi Kwame of Badagry, how did you meet him and why a king?
Don’t let us start (Laughs). My husband walked into the palace of my
uncle and my guardian angel. I just came on holiday and I went to see an
Uncle of Mine in Ota and he just walked in.
My uncle was talking to me about marital life and fortunately my husband
knocked at the door, came in and said he had not seen my uncle for a
while. At that point in time, my uncle was coming in-between him and I
to be honest. Immediately I saw him, the first thing that came to my
mind was ‘a very handsome guy’, but immediately I knew he is an Oba, I
thought his housewould’ve been filled with all sorts of women. Later he
confirmed to me that he got attracted to me too. So, it was a mutual
immediate attraction for us. So, I have shut down all I was doing in
United Kingdom to be with my husband.
How long did you date?
We dated for 2 years. It was between 2015 to early 2017.
How easy was it for you to pack up what you were doing in United Kingdom to settle to be an Oloori?
It was very difficult. This is because I have a very fantastic job. I
have passion for what I do. I am a Nurse, a registered Nurse. I am a
sister at a private company in UK.
I was also a GP surgery. I had a very fat salary. You know women love
money. And you know in UK, if you hold the certificate that I hold, you
can also work as a Nurse and also have your limited company.
So, I was so comfortable. For everybody who knows my job in United Kingdom, they believed I could not leave UK.
It was a big struggle. But my father used to say that “Ibi ti isura
eniyan ba wa ni okan eniyan wa” (your mind is where your treasure is).
At one point, I was always flying in and out. Initially, it was once in 2
months. Later, it was once in a month. So, we both realised he was
spending much on ticket. He always travel down and when he had a meeting
he would fly back. So, the two of us were flying in and out and we knew
it was crazy and I have to settle down. I could not ask him to leave
his kingdom. The sacrifice has to be made from me. It was worth the
while though because we both enjoyed it. I am happy because the Lord is
on my side. The Bible says “when the Lord is for you, nobody can be
against you”. He who finds favour in the eyes of the Lord, has found
favour all around’.
How was growing up for Orejaiye Fabiyi?
Don’t go there (laughs). Let’s just praise God for his faithfulness in
my life. I attended Naiansen College in the UK. After my Diploma
programme in Desktop Publishing, I went for my foundation degree,
education and community studies and had a stint of child psychology and
that is what Nigerians call HND. I worked as Coordinator and Team
Administrator with a Health body degree. I then went to do my Bachelor’s
degree. And I have studied Pathology and Pathology and Biology.
Why is your wedding coming up on Thursday and not Saturday or Sunday?
It is the bride’s family that picks a date. My father is a very busy man
and weekends are his days of work. So, it would have been on Sunday 4th
of June, 2017 because that day is my birthday. But on Sunday, my father
must be at the church. So, the only alternative day close to weekend is
Thursday and my husband wants our wedding to hold in my month and the
closest is Thursday.
So, it my father’s decision to play host to his family on Thursday. Left to me, it won’t be on Thursday.
How is it like marrying a king knowing he might marry another wife, how prepared are you for your new role?
The Bible says: “If the Lord didn’t build the house, the worker Works in
Vain”. So, for that question, I will say it as a worker of the Lord in a
kingdom call Kwameh. I will say the Lord will help me to do that. I
decided according to His riches in glory in Jesus’ name. (Amen). As I
said, the Bible says: “Ti Ko Ba Si Oluwa to Ko Ile na, Osise se lasan
ni”. So I pray to be the best for my husband, the best for my family,
the best for Kwameh Kingdom and the best for my children. The best for
United Kingdom. I am bringing forth what United Kingdom has instilled me
to Kwameh kingdom. God has brought me this far in life. (She begins to
quote different verses of the Bible). So, as far as I am concerned, I
pray to be the Queen, whom my husband desires.
It is stated that there is no jealousy in the palace, how will you feel If he brings in a new wife?
Well, I don’t need to be jealous of anybody. My husband is a very educated person.
Being a King means, he can bring in a New wife, do you have a Senior wife?
No I don’t. My husband had a late wife. May her Soul Rest in Peace. From
what I gathered, I learnt she was a very fantastic Oloori, so I pray
that I am good enough to beat her record. She was very nice. My step
children told me, “our mum has reincarnated”.
I think the Lord is doing a great job in my life.
Don’t let us start (Laughs). My husband walked into the palace of my
uncle and my guardian angel. I just came on holiday and I went to see an
Uncle of Mine in Ota and he just walked in.
My uncle was talking to me about marital life and fortunately my husband
knocked at the door, came in and said he had not seen my uncle for a
while. At that point in time, my uncle was coming in-between him and I
to be honest. Immediately I saw him, the first thing that came to my
mind was ‘a very handsome guy’, but immediately I knew he is an Oba, I
thought his housewould’ve been filled with all sorts of women. Later he
confirmed to me that he got attracted to me too. So, it was a mutual
immediate attraction for us. So, I have shut down all I was doing in
United Kingdom to be with my husband.
How long did you date?
We dated for 2 years. It was between 2015 to early 2017.
How easy was it for you to pack up what you were doing in United Kingdom to settle to be an Oloori?
It was very difficult. This is because I have a very fantastic job. I
have passion for what I do. I am a Nurse, a registered Nurse. I am a
sister at a private company in UK.
I was also a GP surgery. I had a very fat salary. You know women love
money. And you know in UK, if you hold the certificate that I hold, you
can also work as a Nurse and also have your limited company.
So, I was so comfortable. For everybody who knows my job in United Kingdom, they believed I could not leave UK.
It was a big struggle. But my father used to say that “Ibi ti isura
eniyan ba wa ni okan eniyan wa” (your mind is where your treasure is).
At one point, I was always flying in and out. Initially, it was once in 2
months. Later, it was once in a month. So, we both realised he was
spending much on ticket. He always travel down and when he had a meeting
he would fly back. So, the two of us were flying in and out and we knew
it was crazy and I have to settle down. I could not ask him to leave
his kingdom. The sacrifice has to be made from me. It was worth the
while though because we both enjoyed it. I am happy because the Lord is
on my side. The Bible says “when the Lord is for you, nobody can be
against you”. He who finds favour in the eyes of the Lord, has found
favour all around’.
How was growing up for Orejaiye Fabiyi?
Don’t go there (laughs). Let’s just praise God for his faithfulness in
my life. I attended Naiansen College in the UK. After my Diploma
programme in Desktop Publishing, I went for my foundation degree,
education and community studies and had a stint of child psychology and
that is what Nigerians call HND. I worked as Coordinator and Team
Administrator with a Health body degree. I then went to do my Bachelor’s
degree. And I have studied Pathology and Pathology and Biology.
Why is your wedding coming up on Thursday and not Saturday or Sunday?
It is the bride’s family that picks a date. My father is a very busy man
and weekends are his days of work. So, it would have been on Sunday 4th
of June, 2017 because that day is my birthday. But on Sunday, my father
must be at the church. So, the only alternative day close to weekend is
Thursday and my husband wants our wedding to hold in my month and the
closest is Thursday.
So, it my father’s decision to play host to his family on Thursday. Left to me, it won’t be on Thursday.
How is it like marrying a king knowing he might marry another wife, how prepared are you for your new role?
The Bible says: “If the Lord didn’t build the house, the worker Works in
Vain”. So, for that question, I will say it as a worker of the Lord in a
kingdom call Kwameh. I will say the Lord will help me to do that. I
decided according to His riches in glory in Jesus’ name. (Amen). As I
said, the Bible says: “Ti Ko Ba Si Oluwa to Ko Ile na, Osise se lasan
ni”. So I pray to be the best for my husband, the best for my family,
the best for Kwameh Kingdom and the best for my children. The best for
United Kingdom. I am bringing forth what United Kingdom has instilled me
to Kwameh kingdom. God has brought me this far in life. (She begins to
quote different verses of the Bible). So, as far as I am concerned, I
pray to be the Queen, whom my husband desires.
It is stated that there is no jealousy in the palace, how will you feel If he brings in a new wife?
Well, I don’t need to be jealous of anybody. My husband is a very educated person.
Being a King means, he can bring in a New wife, do you have a Senior wife?
No I don’t. My husband had a late wife. May her Soul Rest in Peace. From
what I gathered, I learnt she was a very fantastic Oloori, so I pray
that I am good enough to beat her record. She was very nice. My step
children told me, “our mum has reincarnated”.
I think the Lord is doing a great job in my life.