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KFB's heart-to-heart! Christian lady who fell in love with Muslim guy after several Christian brothers broke her heart, needs your advise

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When I was young I told myself that @ a certain age I will be one man babe....along d line I went into setting my goals (relationship wise), I've dated guys who were Christians and just two Muslims. The Christian guys I have dated so far, don't do the things that should be done in a relationship, it is either one is lazy, rude, had nonchalant attitude,etc my relationship does last long,so have been searching for the right one. Last 2-3years I dated another Christian guy all in the name of "religion" the guy is ohk but it seems to me that I was d one driving d relationship, d guy can't do anything without involving me, I am always the one trying to put him in shape, if am nt around him he looses force, you know, am always the one trying to make things work...and each time I do this I always brings it to his notice that he is not doing what a real man should do, for this years I kept on complaining, still no changes. I had no other option then to break up with him.


 Right now am in relationship with one of d Muslim guy, we've dated before we had issue so we broke up and now we r back together and he wants to settle down with me, yes of course this guy is not giving me all that I want but he is trying, he gets pissed @ me when am wrong, apologize when he is wrong, he is very hard working,he encourage me to be independent, he is even trying to fix me(business wise),I am not saying he is perfect but he is trying to be a perfectionist,with him I can feel a true relationship. Personally I don't have any issue getting married to him,thou he as made his intentions clear that he won't allow me go to church, and I have concluded within me that I Will change to his religion(I didn't tell him this) as far as I am concern we are good to go but I don't think my family will b in support because he is a Muslim.

Pls I need advice what do you think I should do? No insult pls your opinion and advice will be useful pls.

19 comments:

  1. Love can take you anywhere but just be careful. More here

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  2. the problem is the foundation of your relationships with men. you have to have a definite definition of your union with any man. discover God's purpose for your existence first and then you will prayerfully get connected with a man to whom your purpose rhyme.

    it is not the issue of religion now. but i must tell you dear that its a thing of life purpose and God in view at the end of the line. when you discover purpose, you will know which man fits you.

    about whether your spouse should be a christian or muslim, please dear as a christian, marry a christian man(sincerely born again). if you marry a muslim, will you keep enduring indifference in religion? are sure you can? and besides Christiandom does not permit that and so does islam in their own way.

    in your quest for love, always have your standards as derived from the purpose why you were created by God. if you need more counselling you can drop a mail to me here ikeaniblog@gmail.com

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  3. Enter your comment...what Concord has light with darkness?

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  4. Enter your comment... why is he saying u will not go to church, n u call him a good man? God forbid! And u want to change to his religion? Are you a born again Christian? or a church?

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  5. the best thing to do is to pray about it, with God's intervention i'm sure your parents will agree to the union...

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  6. You have made up your mind already. So what advice do you need from us?I don't know how your Christian life is but let me tell you this..there is no marriage after death.Think about this before you rush into marriage.

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    1. Exactly my thought. she already decided.

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    2. GBAM!!!! In fact you took the words right from my mouth!

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  7. She should pray abt it

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  8. My dear, u wear d shoes and knows where it hurts!
    Our instinct shld be followed up with prayers..
    I am a christian(catholic) married to a muslim....if I am to advice u based on ur description of ur man, den go for it!
    My hubby is d best thing that can happen to anyone!
    Best of luck dear!

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  9. I mean, what advice do you need again when obviously you have decided. You said "...,with him I can feel a true relationship. Personally I don't have any issue getting married to him,thou he as made his intentions clear that he won't allow me go to church, and I have concluded within me that I Will change to his religion(I didn't tell him this) as far as I am concern we are good to go but I don't think my family will b in support because he is a Muslim." The only issue here is your family cos you know they won't support you marrying a Muslim. The ball is in your court. So help you Lord.

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  10. I wonder why you need advice though, I can see your mind is made up.

    Anyway, i don't think your relationship issues has anything to do with the guys you've been involved with but you. What's your idea of a relationship? Of course, you've got your preference but where's the God factor because i can't see that in your present relationship. You are willing to renounce Jesus for marriage? If he loves you enough, why didn't he become a Christian for you or at worst allow you pactice your religion. You seem to me like a baby Christian who doesn't know what she wants. Without apologies, i'd say you never were a Christian.

    What can separate us from the love of Christ?? Marriage???? God forbid!!!

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    1. You nailed it o jare. A devout christain would not even think of marrying a muslim.

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    2. but then again, love trascends religion, so it just might work out for them

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  11. From your write-up you are not a christian even though you were born into a family that may be practicing the religion. Christianity is a way of life that starts when one acknowledges the Lord Jesus as their Lord and Saviour, repenting of their sins and following Him daily.

    That said, the issue is that you simply attracted men who are just like you in some way. God will NOT give you a faithful Christian because you are not faithful.

    If you think the grass will be greener or appears greener on the other side, you have a huge and rude shock waiting for you. You will have other women to contend with, there will be issues of practicing whatever you seem to believe, your children etc.

    There is the main problem of loosing out with God and your eternal destination, who will you run to when the walls come down, because believe me they will.

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