Former Benue State First Lady, Mrs. Yemisi Suswam is one of the female Nigeria Celebs that you can’t ignore whenever you sight her at events. The pretty woman is an Architect and she was one of those who stormed Lagos for African Richest woman, Mrs .Folorusho Alakija’s 65th birthday at Oriental Hotel and suite in Lagos.
She had an exclusive Interview with City People Assistant Society Editor ABIOLA ORISILE, where she spoke about how she met her husband, Gabriel Suswam, what has sustained her marriage for 18years and her alleged marriage break-up.
There is one thing about your personality, you are so calm with no airs, and how did you get this trait?
It is about God and his grace my dear. I thank God for the privilege of knowing him because when you know him, you are at peace with yourself. There is no gain in pride as God detest pride and we as human beings should not do things that will detest God. I don’t want to be associated with pride. I was brought up in Ibadan by Christian parents. My father of blessed memory was Chief Herbert Balogun. My mother is Mrs Hannah Balogun and she is still very strong.
How long have you been married?
I have been married for about 18 years by the grace of God.
All Marriage go through their ups and down, what is your advice to young couples who want to leave their marriage due to one reason or the other?
For the young ones going through challenges in their marriage, I want to say that patience goes a very long way. They also need prayer. It is not by power or might to make marriages work. If you park up your marriage, do you want to remain alone for the rest of your life? Probably No. The next person you may meet may be worse than the one you want to leave. So if marriage is worth the while at all, it is worth keeping. I employ them in the name of God to be patient and persevere. Marriage is not a bed of roses. If you are a professional and while practicing your profession, things are not going well, will you leave your profession? You will endure and wait till the storm is over, surely after your storm, there is Life. So they should not forget that whatever they are going through, there is light after the tunnel.
What has sustained your marriage for 18years?
It is only God as there is nothing special that I do except from calling on my God in times of trouble. He has promised that whoever calls upon him in the days of trouble, he will save. He is a faithful God, you just have to believe in him.
How did you meet your husband?
(Smiles). I met my husband Gabriel Suswam at a friend’s place. I think the first time we met was in Kaduna.
Was it love at first sight or was it the Sexy eye ball that caught your attention?
Who says I don’t have sexy eye ball too (Smiles)? It was not love at first sight. We were friends before we became lovers. We understood the feelings of each other which led us into an intimate friendship. He later proposed.
What are those rumours that you have heard that shock you about your marriage?
Well, when you marry in a place where they don’t know your background and they don’t know you so well. You don’t have brothers or sisters there, there is bound to be suspicions, speculation and all that. Nothing shocks me again, the worst rumour I have heard is about my Life and it was early in the marriage. So whatever rumour that goes around, we know that it will never see the light of the day.
Just few months ago, it was alleged that your marriage was in crisis and that you have sued for Divorce in a London court, did you hear about this too?
Unfortunately we didn’t know or read about it because we were in United State of America with all the family. But our son who is 14years old woke us up that hot afternoon saying Daddy, Mummy come and see what is happening. My husband was fresh out of Government and we were just chilling out trying to get ourselves and bond together as a family and thank God for our lives. He told us there was something terrible going on about us on the social media and we were faraway in US when they said we were in London. We didn’t know where the story came from that we were in London when we were in United States. We were not even with our phone as it was switched off, so no family member could reach us but it is one of those things.
What does Mrs Yemisi Suswam do?
I am an Architect by Profession and I am into Property development, that is what I do for a living.
You are going to be 50 very soon and you don’t look it, how have you been able to maintain your youthful look?
I exercise with my husband.
What has sustained your marriage aside God and Love?
We put God first and we priotize our family Life, trust, and believing in each other. You have to be patient and respect each other even in the midst of storm. We never quarrel as we have our ways of resolving our issues.
What do you call your husband of 18years?
We call each other different things depending on what the mood is.