Leke Adeboye is one of the 4 children of Pastor Enoch Adeboye, the
General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God(RCCG). A big
social media user, Leke today shared his top 14 best experiences of
2014. According to Leke, his top experiences for 2104 are:
1. Eating Chinese food in China
2. Visiting China for the first time ever.
3. Visiting Singapore and meeting the Nigerian Ambassador what a great woman.
4. Trip to South America, first time in Argentina, Chile, Nicaragua, Brazil (fontaliza, Brasilia, Sao Paulo) Mexico
5. Meeting the ArchBishop of Canterbury
6. The President recognising me and saying hello my son Leke. I’m still shocked I’m sure SSS are reading my fb postings.
7. First time in Poland
8. PSF Uk re-enegised back to life.
9. Making it into 2014
10. God allowing me to enjoy the gifts He has out in my life. My hot hot wife and super intelligently cute daughters
11. Collecting offering on the largest altar ever while it being streamed live across the world.
12. The best RCCG National Youth convention ever.
13. Visiting Los Angeles for the 1st time ever (twice in one year)
14. Entering the airbus A380 aka the Whale. From Dubai to LA. 15hours…
Longest flight of My life. And taking a shower on board… That was an
experience on its own. And enjoying that amazing Emirates lounge to the
point I got lost in it. Yes it was that big.
15. Rolling/working/serving with, without contest the best man and woman
of God I have seen. Forget they birth me or adopted me. My bosses
Pastor EAADEBOYE and Pst Mrs FAAdeboye.
16. And I’m still alive.
17. (for the experiences I forgot or confidentiality won’t let me share and 2014 is no where near over yet wink wink)
Oh by the way, there’s now a part TWO to their very first Waiting and Loving It interview (HERE)….
Thank you so much for coming to finish your feature! That’s what’s up! lol So, continuing from where you stopped, how did you meet your lovely wife?
My wife already said
this but I will say it again, I did not know that my mentor had a
daughter or anything like that – slight selfishness on my part as I was
only after his mentoring.. Well he later told me a few times that his
daughter was in the University at the Redemption Camp (RUN) so I’m like
“Ok, let’s check out who this daughter is” so that I won’t have to lie next time he asked “Did you see my daughter”,
lol.. And then I saw her.. hmm.. you know – she wasn’t initially my
type.. Maybe because I travel a lot. I have types.. I have met too many
people – which can be a good thing or a bad thing.. This is because ‘too
many people’ means that you have too many choices and it’s no longer
God’s choice for you.
what you want, you kinda push God out so there’s no space for God in
your ideas – which can be very bad! Anyways, moving on swiftly..
All I did was just collect her number.. “Let me just check up on you, I know your dad” etc.
I just collected her number and walked away. Afterwards, I would send a
text once in a while – “how are you doing?” “God bless you”, “How was
uni today?” “Any gist?, any story?” And once in a while I would share a
story of work or whatever I was doing. I like jokes – so sometimes, I
would share a joke with her, ask her a question, you know, just gist
and ideas – building friendship.
That’s
really cool. So how did you translate from friendship to knowing that
this was IT? That she was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your
life with?
Well, I have to
say here that I had a list (lol)… Initially my parents asked me who I
was interested in and if I had been praying – You know we had THAT talk
and I had a list of about 10 different girls that I thought were the
one(!). I told them to pick one and they were like “You are not ready” and promptly tore up the list. Mehn, I had to go and start from ground zero and obviously cancel my list (hahaha).
woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with.. I have to tell
you, it was a journey – for guys, it’s usually a journey, especially if
you are about to sign off your life completely. It’s a journey – between
you trusting God and hearing God and listening and being able to
understand ways in which God talks to you (this is why it is important
to know how God talks to you, and not just wait till when you are about
to get married before you start hearing from God).
initially, there are just some certain characters in a person that works
out for me which my wife clearly exhibited – She’s a perfect blend. I
come from a family where confidentiality is very important. Also, there
are certain things we can do and certain things we cannot do. We
understand that you don’t just live holy but you have to be an example
to others as well.
Furthermore, I was asking God to show me the
future and not the now. Most people don’t look at the future.. To be
real, my wife did not look as hot then as she does now! When I met her, I
wasn’t looking at now, but at the future.. And this is what, only 4 or 5
years ago.. (Cause I had to wait for her. I had to wait for her to
finish Uni. I had to wait for her to go and finish NYSC – that’s another
1 year! I had to wait for her to go and start Masters!) But that
Masters own was not too bad because her father was going to pay lol. You
know because once you marry somebody (which some people don’t know),
their everything becomes your everything – their debt becomes your debt,
their money becomes your money, their broke-ness becomes your
broke-ness, including their school fees becomes your school fees.. Omo for
the Masters, wisdom profiteth LOL. In everything, get understanding –
so I ‘understood’ and I said let the girl start Masters before we marry,
that way she’s still her Dad’s responsibility (Amen? Hahaha).
Afterwards, I had to pay for her expenses at University as we were now
married (LOL – her father and I shared the responsibility) *I digress*
you’ve been looking all around in different locations when all you need
is just 10mins drive from your house – right there! Don’t worry, stop
flying everywhere – I have already provided her for you. Don’t fly
anywhere, I will fly her to you” – just like He did it for
Elijah when he was hungry (1Kings 17).. Yes I knew she was the one. And
it’s easy to spend the rest of your life with somebody like that!
That’s really wonderful! So, what made you make the decision to wait?
I honestly believe
that for a guy it’s harder to wait! But one of the things is this – in
any relationship, in any friendship, you guys should have boundaries and
agreements that you ‘sign’ from the word go. It’s like a covenant –this
relationship, we have rules at the beginning, sit down, let’s talk – if
people are going out/dating/courting, if they don’t have the sit-down
talk of ‘these are the dos and don’ts’, and set out expectations, I’m
sorry but they are just joking, they are not ready yet..
So I had to wait, and assure her that there would be times I would
not be on the ‘mountain’, there would be times I would not be
‘spiritual’ and would be very carnal, and that she should please remind
me that all of this (which is her) would be mine for the rest of our
lives, after we finish the ‘I dos’ . At that time I was about to turn 30
and if we are supposed to live an average of 70 in the world (which by
God’s grace we will live longer), that means I have 40+ years left to
spend with her, so why won’t I wait?
Where you tempted?
Ha
temptation full ground.. like Fried rice at a rich man’s wedding.. Of
course it was hard, it wasn’t that easy.. especially when you’re left in
the same place, especially when your wife is extremely hot like mine,
yeah it is hard! But God helped us.. but I won’t lie, it was hard..
struggle sef!
I can only imagine! So now that you have crossed that line, what would you say to your single self?
Haa
to my single self? I should have not wasted all that money on the girls
before! Oh my days! All the birthday parties that I have paid for in
life lool. (Because you know if you really want to get a girl {advice to
all single brothers out there} you have to parley with all her
friends..If you are buying gifts for the girl, buy for all her friends,
if the girl is doing birthday, celebrate for all her friends! lol.. If
you can win over the friends, you are ok! If you can win all the 12
disciples, you have won over Jesus – all the best with Judas Iscariot
though, because there’s always going to be one (hahaha).
Don’t
date as many people, I know they say it’s to gain experience but at the
same time, it’s a problem because it comes back to bite you. Some
relationships are more difficult to break off from, there are some scars
that will heal but the mark will still be there. There are some
heartbreaks that you don’t need. Being dumped by certain girls was not a
good look and doing so to girls is not a good look either. Just stay
faithful to God.. Don’t try and listen to methods that the ‘world’ or
popular opinion gives you in terms of how to relate with women. When
Jesus said that He will send the Holy Spirit to us to teach us all
things (John 14:26), He did not actually mean just spiritual things.. Me
I won’t lie, it was the Holy Spirit that taught me how to toast
my wife. I thought I was going to use the same old school methods that I
normally used, but that did NOT work.. It took me a while to understand
the way. So literally I had to learn how to toast with the help
of the Holy Spirit – And that was amazing to be honest because the Holy
Spirit has insider information on the girl you are toasting more than
you could ever have yourself (Note though, the Holy Spirit will only
help you to toast the one that He has told you that you will end up with oh!)
Holy Spirit the informant, nice one! So, could you tell us 3 great things about being married to your wife?
One of the things I prayed to God for was a non-regular Nigerian wife – like I don’t want to be eating eba, I don’t want to be eating asaro onisu gigan all
the time lol. I like things that are exotic, at the same time
enjoyable. I like somebody that likes to try new things because I don’t
want to be stuck in my ways (generally, if you are already stuck in your
ways, it’s more difficult for God to speak to you and change you and
move you forward).. And my wife can cooook! My wife tries
different things all the time – Italian, Chinese, Nigerian, Portuguese,
Spanish Paella, name it! She buys cookbooks too to spice things up! –
(yeah) I am a very happy man!
Secondly, I desired someone that would not come into my family as a
minus but as an addition and my wife has been a great addition to my
family. My mum LOVES her, as in at the beginning I was jealous because
they even loved her more than me! I don’t want to say anymore (I don’t
want her head to ‘swell’ too much joh)
Thirdly, her
spending habits! You see some people would think that when they collect
offerings in RCCG parishes, a percentage will be deposited in my account
– NO, it’s not family business lol.. So even the little finances that I
have, my wife knows how to manage it. Recently, I was at an airport
about to come back home – I called my wife I said “Baby, I saw this beautiful (expensive) bag, do you want it?” My wife replies me and says no, “I need a pair of oven gloves and an apron, that’s all I want”..
As in, I cannot lie, I was seriously trippped, like honestly, it’s only
God that can give you a wife like this!… Even me personally, if you
call me to ask me that, even if I don’t want the bag, I can ask you to
bring the money (haha).
change! I wasn’t expecting that (Not that she doesn’t have her money,
but I take pride in my responsibility as her husband to provide for
her). You see if you have someone like that that can manage you, manage
your life, somebody that is there for not just her own interest but for
your own interest as well in every way.. come on, what else do you want?
Somebody like that, you will literally die for the person..
willing to marry? I usually ask them “Are you ready?” You see, because
the bible says something, “Husbands love your wives like Christ loved the church”
(Ephesians 5:25) and I always ask people – What did Christ do for the
church? He died for the church! If you haven’t found a babe that you
know that you are willing to truly die for, then you haven’t found the
right one or you have found the right one and you are not ready. Then
don’t waste anybody’s time when you’re not ready..
I’ll be
honest, YES I’m ready to die for this woman! I’m serious.. I’m ready to
die for my wife, I’ve signed a contract.. That’s the level we are right
now. I asked God for a perfect wife – the one that matched me, that
meets my own needs and He gave me one, so in return, I should do what He
did. #Dassal