As crazy as people get for sex, it’s usually always NOT reason enough
to get married. People may marry for money, fame, “God said”,
connection…. but, hardly for sex. Often times, great sex is a great
incentive.
That’s for some folks though….
So, if we realise that great sex is never the deciding factor for marriage… why do people dishonour themselves, while single.
Without a doubt, I am pro-celibacy until marriage. However, I agree
that sex is important. It has to be…for God to say we should wait until
marriage.
When I say important, I mean – important for babymaking and important for the pleasure it brings.
(Btw, I think a cock’s favourite pastime is sex… that’s why he will chase the hen to the ends of the earth for it. Lol)
Back to what I was saying… many people say they engage in pre-marital
sex so they can be experienced. Once upon a time, I foolishly expected
my husband-to-be to be experienced, so that wedding night would be
eventful.
Now, I know better.
If you gain all the experience in the world and still marry someone
who’s not so great in bed, you are setting yourself up for frustration,
infidelity,…. a broken home.
(PS: You may live under the same roof and still have a broken home).
So… what’s the way forward for those who agree that sex is important but have chosen to do the right thing by waiting…
Get creative!
The desire for sex is natural… expressing yourself in that regard
would also be natural. You don’t have to sleep around first and neither
do you have to subscribe to pornography.
Talk to your partner about sex… before marriage. I think people that
are engaged should also talk about sex. What they think of it and what
to make of it.
If your man or woman has potential of being a wild cat…find out and get ready
(Caveat: Don’t have this discussion in a private place o. Don’t tempt yourselves).
There are also books by Christian writers on sex. Try one of those.
When you are married, you are legal… so feel free to explore and show
your partner your wild side. Leave the speaking in tongues and bible
quoting things and get down to freaky business. Lol.
(My psstor must not see this).
Anyway, this is what I think. That we choose to be children of light
does not mean we cannot enjoy God’s gift to the fullest measure. Yes we
can!
One final word… SEX IS NOT A DIRTY THING. It is only dirty when you do it wrongly.
What do you think?