He lives
each day trying to please his woman, he may have other girls but he
places no one above her, his wish, above all things is peace, a month, a
week, or even a day without her ‘nags’. He keeps up with her PMS
secretly praying for her to be fine.
When she cries for no reason, he yells at her, not out of hatred but
so she’d learn to be strong in case he is not around. He keeps his phone
away just so she’d not be sad and he can’t really figure why she is
always on the lookout for it.
He tries to remember all relevant dates
but since its more than one, he gets confused, in order not to mess it
up with a mistake, he’ll rather be quiet about it all.
The things she expects of him, the ones she sees on tv are not just
his ways, if he tries to do them, he’ll most likely look like a fool,
but he loves her in his own way, he honestly wishes she could see.
While
she’s asleep, he opens his eyes, fixes his gaze on her and he’s happy
to have found such a pretty woman, but just as she stirs he looks away,
like he never noticed her. She is his love, she is his life and he wish
he could go to the roof top to say it but the words would not just come.
He provides for her, protects and honors his woman, he is quiet while
she’s there but turns to a roaring lion fighting for her once she
leaves. He is constantly wishing he could rip open his heart and show
her so she will see that the other girls, the phone calls; the messages
don’t take her place. They are just bad habits which he needs her
cooperation to overcome.
He really wants to propose and get married to her but he doesn’t want
her to push him just yet. He has his fears too, fear of broken home,
fear of being tagged a failure at marriage, fear of not being the father
he is expected to be. His whole world revolves around her, but in a
rather queer way, different from what is written in those books.
And then, despite all her nagging, screaming, trailing and monitoring
him, he’s most likely prepared to stay with her and not divorce her,
because if not for any other reason, she is the mother of his kids.
Have you met him yet? He is the typical Nigerian guy. The one we all grumble about yet can’t live without.
Lovely piece by Debbie Ibiyemi (Originally published in Nativeland magazine)
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