Annie’s mum, Isabel, Annie and … |
In a new interview with Sunday Sun, the happy go mother
of two, Annie Idibia shared her growing up experiences and sacrifices her
mother made after they were abandoned by their father. She further prayed her marriage to 2face Idibia would last long enough, adding that she wouldn’t want her kids to undergo the emotional trauma that she passed through when her parents separated 20 years ago. See excerpts below:
“My mum
and dad divorced 20 years ago. My mother bred us from childhood to
adulthood because of the divorce. I was almost a tom boy growing up with
my brothers. It’s heartbreaking when you live with your parents happily
and suddenly, they part ways. Sincerely, we were terribly affected
emotionally. It was especially tough where it was only our mother that
was attending functions in school and taking care of our needs. It was
emotionally sapping and my brothers have their own fair share of
memories. It affected me so much while in secondary school because I was
always sad going home after school hours to see my mother living
without my father. But mum tried her best to make life meaningful for
us; she is my hero. And I appreciate God for being there for us.” she
disclosed.
On growing up “We lived in Ibadan with our parents when
my father was working with Mobil and my mother was a house wife. She
remained a house wife until they separated. I was born with a silver
spoon but I didn’t grow up with it. After their divorce, my mother got a
job with Mobil working as a cook to support us.”
How the
experience sharpened her “It made me stronger and independent as a
woman. As the only girl, my mother taught me to do domestic chores.
Today as a married woman, I have domestic staff but I still cook and do
house chores. I started working immediately after I graduated from
secondary school at age 15. I worked as a sales girl in a boutique and
two other places before I got admission to study, leading up to my
diploma. I also worked part time as an undergraduate of Computer Science
at the Lagos State University when I was 18-years-old. Thereafter, I
got admission into the University of Lagos where I bagged a degree in
Theatre Arts. Growing up wasn’t easy, my sister. I have never shared
this before in the media but I think God wants His name to be exalted in
my life.”
Reconciling with her dad and her marriage with 2face Idibia “I
have reconciled with my father. I did seven years ago. Our mother
always encouraged us to forgive our father and love him regardless of
the past. I have a very good relationship with my father now. Honestly,
divorce is the worst punishment any parent could subject children to
because it’s the children that will face the consequences of their
actions. Divorce shouldn’t be considered as an option when couples
face-off. It is advisable to settle rather than divorce. Why did you get
married if you cannot forgive and reconcile with your partner? I don’t
wish my kids to pass through my experience regarding divorce. I always
use my parents-in-laws as an example and I try to emulate them in my
marriage. After all these years, they are still deeply in love with each
other. Even at their age, they still enjoy each other’s company and
that is amazing.”
May all the odds against her marriage to 2face, work in her favour and see them to a happily ever after, amen!